(Closed) Announcing wedding date before sending save the dates?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Definitely! We actually asked around to make sure the date we wanted was available for close friends and family. Don’t worry, they’ll still be psyched to get your save the dates. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Absolutely let people know–we are getting married this July, but booked the hall and church last March. We emailed all family and close friends as soon as we had the date so they could be sure to keep it open and we sent out the STD 9 months before (so a month ago)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah we did this too. My FI’s cousin has been making noise about planning a wedding next summer even though they are not yet engaged, so we announced it on facebook and through family as soon as we booked just to make sure she wouldn’t overlap with us. Sort of passive agressive but it worked. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s fine to spread the word to family, but keep your wedding off Facebook unless you plan to invite all of your FB friends. At the very least, keep the big details off of it. It opens a huge can of worms with people thinking they’ll be invited.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Of course! Especially if there may be a timing conflict, call “shotgun” ASAP!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had essentially 9 VIP’s that we planned our wedding date around their availability, so of course we tossed around lots of dates with the most important people even BEFORE we had a date.  Once you have it, I’d definitely start keeping people in the loop on a need to know basis.  The STD is just a reminder that they can keep handy, and to notify the second round of important people.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had an engagment party a month after I got engaged where we announced our bridal party and our wedding date to everyone cause we were able to say why we chose so and so to be in a bridesmaid/groomsman and finally announce our date which was exactly 1 year from that party.  We have yet to send STD since we’re just getting to do engagement pictures now.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

It’s not like it has to be this huge secret. 😉 I told everyone as soon as we had picked the date. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Definitely okay. I did the same thing! There are some important people that need to know ASAP so why not tell them before making save the dates.

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