Announcing wedding date on social media?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
241 posts
Helper bee

Close family and friends will learn your date via word of mouth.  Those who are invited will learn your date when they receive your save the date.  Non-invited friends have no need for that information. There is no need to post such information.

Post # 17
1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

To me, I don’t really see a difference between that and an engagement announcement in the paper.  I wouldn’t assume I’m invited if I saw it on facebook, nor would I expect an invitation.  

Post # 18
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I didn’t post when we booked the venue and set the date, but posted a “one month until I get to marry him” sappy post haha. I think those types of posts are fine, but I don’t really see the point in posting something like “Just picked our wedding date!” I also don’t see the point in sharing that with people who aren’t invited.

Post # 19
1496 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

No, it’s completely unnecessary.

What is the purpose? You’ll send out invites to the guests who make the cut.

Post # 20
2037 posts
Buzzing bee

No. It’s completely rude and I doubt many other people will find it cute or endearing. No one else cares about your wedding as much as you do

Post # 21
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I think at particular milestones I posted like #100Days with a photo or a tag or something when I bought my dress and stuff but idk if I ever explicitly said “ the wedding date is_____”

Post # 22
1148 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t announce it. In fact, I’d specifically keep it low key so that people I’m not planning to invite won’t be asking me about it and then have the awkward silence (because they’re not invited) or awkward “yea…we’re keeping it small, so…”. 

And yes some people WILL invite themselves or ask you if they’re invited (I’ve had one or two doing that even without the social media post and one of my friends had friends inviting themselves too). I would just keep it quiet. 

Share your excitement privately with people you’re actually inviting.

Post # 23
7979 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

It’s just oversharing, IMO. People who are invited will know soon enough, and those who are not invited shouldn’t have it advertised that they didn’t make the cut. What’s the purpose of just announcing the date?

Post # 24
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Comes off very attention-whorey to me. 

Post # 25
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

No. I sent a Save the Date card to ONLY those who would be invited. 

Post # 26
14169 posts
Honey Beekeeper

This would be inappropriate. It’s rude to share the details of an event to which people are not invited. 

Post # 27
1390 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

Don’t. Tacky and unnecessary. 


ETA: that’s what The Bee is for. On here you can post as much as you want about your wedding and we’ll be excited right along with you!!

Post # 28
9262 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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danadrew19 :  Why do something that has no benefit but does have the potential to cause awkwardness and hurt feelings? It’s all cons with no pros. 

Post # 29
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

I created a post at the 365 day mark (that focused on the milestone) and did utilize the post as an ice breaker as we will be having 21 people in attendance. Close friends approached us asking if my fiancé and I will be having a small intimate wedding and at that point we discussed the details. It made it a smaller gap to bridge.

It was a smooth and positive experience for us (our friends and family supported our decision and shared in the excitement) but I can imagine that among some circles it may cause a sense of awkwardness, sadness and/or tension. I would err on the side of caution.

Post # 30
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I didn’t.   My friends/family knew the date because we sent save the dates. Posting it on fb would only be letting the people who weren’t invited know the date and why would they want to know that?  I am uninterested in the details of events I’m not invited to.  

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