Post # 1
I’m not sure if this should go under emotional–I mean, is annoyed an emotion? I don’t know.. but yeah, my wedding is just a few short weeks away and I can’t wait for it to come and go. I can’t say that the wedding planning has been ‘stressful,’ it’s just so ANNOYING.
First, it was just annoying that my life became consumed with wedding crap. Gone are the days of unlimited mimosas at Sunday brunch–instead, I spend my Sundays picking out which shade of gold my stupid effing linens will be, or calling up the photographers, band, or the countless other people who are involved with my wedding and the mention of whom give me facial ticks.
Then, it’s the guests. They RSVP, they don’t RSVP; they send me emails requesting to be seated with people (like my main concern is where some douche is sitting), they send me emails asking me what to wear (WHY?). Every conversation I have somehow turns to this wedding. I don’t want to talk about the wedding, I want to talk about ANYTHING BUT.
Then, it’s just random people who have come into my life solely because of this wedding, people who I CANNOT stand, who aggrevate me with their BS (a seamstress whose work motto seems to be ‘garuntee to overcharge, butcher, and lie’ and other such cretins).
Finally, it’s the relatives–on both sides. They need to stop talking. All of them.
Seriously? 6 months of this for ONE night?
Anyone experiencing similar emotions? Anyone? Anyone? Bueler?
Post # 3
I was so ready for my wedding to be over too! I was not in love with the planning at all!
Post # 4
Girl, I totally feel you. I’ve got 5 months to go and I just want it to be over. I swear, if we ever do a vow renewal or, god forbid, i ever get married again, I will go to city hall. JOP baby, JOP.
Post # 5
Woah, girl. Remember that all of this, down to the linens and the seating chart and the guests and the seamstress, exists because you chose it to exist.
It’d be good to not refer to your guests as “douches” or be so angry at them for emailing you to ask you what to wear.
My guess is that most of the guests who are out now spending their paychecks to fulfill your registry wouldn’t like that very much.
I get that you’re stressed, but noone is forcing you to have a wedding. That’s why eloping exists. Try to take a step back and gain some perspective. Good luck.
Post # 6
haha zippylef, don’t even mention vow renewals.. it’s never happening.
texaslawgirl, I see what you’re saying, but although I made the choices that have led me here, it doesn’t mean I can’t be annoyed with where ‘here’ is. And as for your other points,
1. No one is spending their paychecks to fulfill my registry, as I don’t have one.
2. People who know that this is a large wedding and that seating is complicated enough, but send emails basically demanding to be seated at a table with so-and-so anyway, qualifies someone as a douche in my book. Especially when it comes from people who have had weddings of their own and COMPLAINED about the exact. same. thing.
Post # 7
haha, your message made me laugh and was very well written! I can’t say I can relate sorry as I (at the moment) am enjoying my planning but in the run down I expect there is every chance I may feel the same!
Hang in there, pretty soon all you will have left is sore feet and memories
Post # 8
Annoyed is a definite emotion! I have made a rule with the fam-if you can’t get me your relative/friends address they will not be invited. Period. Maybe you should enforce a rule as well. e.g. if you want to attend you will sit with whomever and wherever I seat you, this is not a resturant. This should be fun for you, at least most of the time. And if it’s still annoying ELOPE. Shoulda, woulda, coulda- but we already made the deposit!
Post # 9
Thanks, nzbride! I used to write a column about relationships, until I entered a good one and had nothing else to bitch/moan about.
Future Mrs. Kirsch–I know! Eloping sounds good, but on the other hand, you only get one wedding (hopefully).. and about the wedding planning being fun, I never thought or expected it to be.. I hate planning parties and concerning myself with details and always have. So, when we got engaged, I was so, SO happy and excited about the rest of our lives, but I knew that the wedding planning might drive me to insanity and/or suicide.
Post # 10
I AM WITH YOU GIRL! I HAVE 8 DAYS AND I CANT WAIT TO HAVE THIS BEHIND ME. FOR A YEAR THE WEDDING HAS CONSUMED MY LIFE. I CANT WAIT TO JUST BE A HAPPY MARRIED GIRL. WITH THIS WEDDING MY EYES HAVE OPENED REAL WIDE AND I HAVE SEE THAT I HAVE A FEW DOUCHES ON MY SIDE AS WELL. I LOST 2 FRIENDS BECAUSE OF THIS WEDDING.. WHEN THEY WERE NEEDED THEY CAUSED THE MOST STRESS… UGH GLAD ITS ALMOST OVER BUT I AM EXCITED TO SEE IT ALL PUT TOGETHER. I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND OUR FAM SO CANT WAIT FOR THAT BUT THIS OTHER CRAP LIKE ALL THE DIY AND SHOPPING AND PLANNING… I WILL NOT MISS
Post # 11
I try… TRY to be positive about the experience. Because, if nothing else, by doing so I’m hoping I can trick my brain to look back at it all and think- wow, I enjoyed that time. When in actuality, most of it has been fine. I’m praying the things that have worked out well continue to do so. I really have been fortunate in a lot of ways. But there have been other things I could do without. Annoying guest questions, lack of money, BM’s being obnoxious- that’s the stuff I’d rather not deal with. I always said that I’d love to just go to sleep and wake up on the wedding day, all the other stuff is blah! We’re almost done though and you’re 2 weeks closer than I am- hang in there!
Post # 12
Oh my gosh, I could have written this, girl. I am so there right now. I want to go back to the way it was before!!!!!!!!!! I’m so sick of talking about the wedding! (Yet still it seems like all I can think about.)
Post # 13
Holy Caps Lock, Batman.
The seating thing is annoying, yeah, but other than that I think that stuff is par for the course with wedding planning and you knew what you were getting into with it since you knew you’d hate it and you don’t like to plan parties. It’s totally fine to be annoyed by stupid little s**t but try not to let it take away from the fact that this is ultimately a wonderful time in your life and the endgame is taht you’ll be married to a great man.
Good luck with the douches!
Post # 14
@oyla, you make me laugh!! I really sometimes think that weddings bring out the worst in people, but it will be over soon, and it will all hopefully culminate in a beautiful day that you will remember forever.
We put together a wedding website to answer everyone’s questions about the wedding. We put TONS of work into it, and really all of the important information about our wedding is on there. So how come my annoying family members keep calling me to ask TONS of questions? — the exact questions that are already answered on the website. Hello!! Look at the wedding website. The same website that was listed on the save-the-date AND the invitation, Duh!
Post # 15
I totally get that…and I have literally JUST started planning. Already, I am frustrated in having to defend my choices and why this is good/bad and then repeat it another 5 times. And yet it feels like no one has heard a thing I’ve said. I thought about this to myself the other night (after getting upset from a phone call with my mom)…is this one day REALLY worth it? I mean sure, I am excited for the marriage itself and I want to celebrate it with my family and friends. BUT will I be able to do this for the next 14 months – this crazy, stressful planning? Am I going to have to fight my way through everything that needs to be done?
I know this should be a fun (for the most part) experience and I know it is MY day. I have decided that while I appreciate other opinions, it is what my Fiance and I want that matters at the end of the day. I am allowing myself to be selfish – to an extent – because I am only planning on doing this one time and I want it to be how I always dreamed it would be! Thankfully, I have a wonderfully supportive Fiance and we are absolutely on the same side with the same ideas.
It’s still good to know there are many other brides who are going through the same thing though. Puts my mind at ease…even if just a little!
Post # 16
I agree with you! Who are these people to be requesting where they sit! I think that the word “douche” was a perfect word to use! Really who does that?!!