- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
Mrslovebug: Ugh I really feel for you! I don’t have children yet but my mum had my younger brothers only a few years ago and we’re very close so i’ve seen her experience very similar frustrations!
I’ll tell her what I told you. It is YOUR baby. Baby’s mum and dad are the only people who get a say, their rules are the only rules. Do not feel awkward/embarrassed/rude for being very clear about this with people. You need to lay down the law and if they can’t respect those rules, they can’t visit. Every moment with a baby is special and important and you need to feel 100% comfortable.. as if this time isn’t hard enough on you and your partner, you don’t need the additional stress!
If you don’t want to leave your baby yet, don’t. I wouldn’t want to be leaving bubs so soon either! Make sure your husband understands how you feel and that he supports you when others are being pushy. I understand wanting to make everyone happy but you have a right to be selfish with your baby right now. It’s lovely that you have so many people wanting to spend time with you guys, but it has to be under your rules (and definitely ignore all those little unhelpful comments, most of them probably haven’t had to deal with a new born at all or at least for a very long time!)
Be strong!!! and congratulations on your new little bundle of joy 😉