Post # 1
What annoys you about your SO/FI/DH? Have you developed any workarounds? And what does he do that makes you say “WTF”?
So Darling Husband still doesn’t know how to load the dishwasher properly. Part of it’s my OCD, part of it is just common sense. You know how the racks are set up so you slide the plates and bowls inbetween the tines and can get 10-20 in a row. Well Darling Husband will put opposite the way you are supposed to (inetween the rows) so you can on ly get 4-5 total in the whole bottom rack. Used to do it all the time. Luckily, it’s only occasionally now.
Workaround- when he puts stuff in the dishwasher that my OCD can’t handle (I like to load glasses from front to back), I go behind him to rearrange it.
WTF- I still don’t understand this one. We let the cats out on to our deck. There is a storm door and a regular door. Darling Husband does not like closing the regular door while the cats are outside. It’s super cold out there and he thinks the storm door will keep all the cold air outside (even when the heat turns on). Why does he do this?! He doesn’t want the cats to feel rejected or hurt thier feelings. HUH?!?! WTF?
But I’m no better. We have a bathroom where the tolet roll center doesn’t work well. Every time you change the roll you have to wrestle with it. So I just don’t anymore. I just leave the roll on the counter. Darling Husband goes behind me and puts the roll on for me. LOL
So how do you deal with DH’s little quirks? How does he deal with yours?
Post # 3
Haha, I love this topic already!
What annoys me most about my Fiance is he is always picking his nose and then when he is in bed he wipes his discusing snot on my lovely ridiculously expensive bedsheets. This means when I strip the sheets I find a pile of collected boggies on his side. WHO OVER THE AGE OF 5 DOES THAT?!?!?! argghhhhhh.
Workaround: If he is going to have a childs habit then I will treat him like a child… when ever I see him reaching into that dark abyess I just pass him a tissue.
And my WTF moment has to be… nope actually the snot thing is also the wtf moment.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
haha I honestly can’t think of anything to contribute to this, except that maybe he leaves his laundry on the floor sometimes.
@PimmsBride: that’s so gross!!
Post # 5
@KoiKove: Great topic!
Annoyance: Similar to your dishwasher issue, but we don’t have a dishwasher (thank you miserable NJ/NYC living conditions). My annoyance is that he puts still wet dishes into the cabinets so when I take them out, they have weird streaks/water marks on them that make them look dirty. I always bitch about it to him (with love, of course).
Workaround: He takes FOREVER in the shower in the morning on weekdays. It’s weird b/c on weekends, he’s out of there in 10 minutes. B/c of his shower dawdling, I’ve had to resort to showering before bed otherwise I’d be running late for work (I leave after him commuting-wise, but his delaying things delays things for me).
Wtf: I (like normal people, I assume) like to eat dinner while watching a movie. Hence, if we get a Netflix movie, I would assume that we would eat dinner WHILE watching the movie. Him? No. He would rather watch sports or something else while eating dinner then turn the movie on AFTER his dinner is done. I’m like, “What difference does it make?” I am all “Wtf” but as long as I can eat my meal during the movie, I’m cool.
Post # 6
@PimmsBride: Eww! My Darling Husband likes to eat right before going to bed–in bed. So when I do the sheets I find pizza and soy sauce stains. One time he fell alseep while eating, there was caked on cheese and pizza sauce all over the sheets and duevet. Darling Husband tried to secrectly do the laundry, but realized he has no idea how to remove stains and had to confess. He looked so pitiful it was hard to be mad at him LOL
Post # 7
Darling Husband has no spatial reasoning. We do our dishes by hand but like @KoiKove:‘s SO he cannot for the life of him load the dish drainer properly and he doesn’t like to towel dry. So he will load the drainer with like 6 dishes then have to wait til they dry to rinse the next load. I’m able to get about 30 dishes in the damn thing.
He also puts groceries in the pantry incorrectly (as far as I am concerned).
Workaround: Darling Husband only does dishes when I am not around or I do them the majority of the time. Darling Husband goes grocery shopping and will put away things in the fridge or freezer but leave the items for the pantry on the counter for me to put away.
WTF: Nope, I’ve got nothing. May need to come back to this. There are a lot of little things but we have been together so long I mostly just shrug my shoulders, do what needs to be done, and go about my day. (Picking up, putting the toilet paper roll on the dispenser).
Oh! GOT ONE! We have a mirror with hooks hanging on our entry way. Super convient to hang up your jacket when you walk in the house. Darling Husband will stop in the entry way, read the mail, take off his shoes, set down his keys, and then walk in the living room…to drop his jacket on the couch. WTF?
Post # 8
My fiance leaves garbage on the counters, as if he doesn’t know where the garbage is. He complains about my not changing the toilet paper roll, but I’ve never seen him actually recycle the roll after he’s changed it. He just leaves them on the counter or on the windowsill expecting them to magically disappear.
He also has a habit of just leaving crap all over the place. Come home with a reciept, leave it on the table. He will fully throw his shopping bags on the floor and leave them for the shopping bag fairy to pick up. I’m obsessive compulsive and get really disturbed when there is clutter, so I just gather up his shit that I don’t know what to do with and shove it in a drawer or closet. I’m not going to nag him to sort out his stuff like his mother would have.
Sometimes he gets pissed when he finds things he “lost” but I just remind him that if he gave them a home, it wouldn’t have happened. Plus he know exactly where to look. It’s not like I’m hiding it.
Post # 9
@Junip3r: I’m like your Darling Husband. I totally have clutter blindness (my OCD is not for tidiness, unfortunately). I dont have an issue with Darling Husband straightening up. I just hate it when he doesnt remember where he moved stuff. I can’t tell you how many things I’ve had to buy again because he can’t remember what he did with them.
Post # 10
Rinsing the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher is a big deal in our house. No matter how many times I beg him to, he won’t, and it grosses me out. Finally, I served him dinner on plate that had a huge smear of something gross on it, and when he said “this plate is dirty” I said “huh, that’s weird! I pulled it straight out of the dishwasher!” He laughed and said “ok fine, I get it.” Now he ALWAYS rinses them 🙂
Post # 11
@LilliePad: Have you tried the Finish Powerballs? Seriously best detergent out there. We started using them when we got a new dishwasher. But you dont have to pre-rinse your dishes. Expensive, but so worth it!
Post # 12
@KoiKove: I’ve tried everything, unfortunately. He just doesn’t get that our dishwasher SUCKS. It’s old and awful, so you practically have to completely wash the dishes before putting them in there. I told him once we get a new dishwasher, he doesn’t have to rinse anymore!
Post # 13
@LilliePad: HAH!!!! This is when I wish the Bee had a ‘like’ button!
Post # 14
WTH. Is my Fiance also living with you? Where is he finding the time? That rat. 🙂
I solved the dishwasher situation by always loading, and he always unloads.
He leaves the lights on in rooms for the cats because he thinks it would be rude to leave them in the dark. I have no workaround for that other than making fun of him for it.
Post # 15
@KoiKove: Total +1 on the dishwasher. I have learned to just be grateful that he does it and go behind him and quietly fix everything to maximize space and cleaning power.
He is super forgetful and and generally messy: leaves cabinet/closet/pantry doors open constantly, “melts” out of his clothes wherever he’s standing when he decides to go to bed (could be the living room, could be the office…), and his tiny little beard hairs get all over my nice clean bathroom sink.
But honestly, I don’t bitch about it anymore. We’ve been together for 6 years (living together for most of it) and it’s not worth it to bitch to anyone but you guys. I’m reading Love and Respect and it’s really helped me to curb my nagging.
Post # 16
My fiancé is the messiest sleeper EVER. In one night he can have all the sheets kicked off the bed and crumpled into a ball on the floor and the duvet practically upside down. I hate it. Now I safety pin the sheets to the duvet so he can’t kick that off and I just about have to tuck him into bed so that he doesn’t mess it all up just getting in. It’s unreal, I’ve never seen anyone sleep like a hurricane before haha.