(Closed) Annoyed at a friend who bought his SO an e-ring (vent)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

People spend money on stupid things all the time, you can’t let it bother you; it’ll drive you crazy.

Post # 4
1673 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SneakyBee:  It’s ok to feel this way! Everybody is entitled to their opinion. I think I’d try not to mention it, and eventually you’ll get over it. I have this one friend that always makes dumb decisions… It makes me want to shake him sometimes! But they are harmless to me. All I can do is make polite suggestions when asked.

It will probably annoy you for awhile, but there probably isn’t anything you can do unless he is the sort to want lots of opinions. If he is like that though, you can tell him gently.

Post # 5
75 posts
Worker bee

kays has a 30 day return policy 🙂

Post # 6
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@SneakyBee:  ugh, I’d be doing the same thing. Glad you could vent on here. Sometimes the bee really saves the day, huh?

Post # 7
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@SneakyBee:  I have felt this way before. And yeah, I hinted at the guy who bought the ring about not talking to his FI about rings first…(he did not get it..lol)…but in the end…it’s your friend who is going to have to say something because he is gonna be proud of what he bought reguardless…

Post # 8
764 posts
Busy bee

You should tell him it’s ugly and he should return it. 

Post # 9
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Santa Barbara Courthouse

@SneakyBee:  If he’s not your SO and the ring isn’t for you and it’s not your money, why is it of any importance to you? And why on earth are you letting it bother you?

Post # 10
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That would drive me crazy too. Such a waste of money. Especially since if he doesn’t have plans to propose any time soon, it’ll probably sit in his closet until after the return period.

Post # 11
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

Oh man I would be so tempted to say something to him!!  For Julie’s sake!!  

Post # 12
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@missjayb:  Pretty sure she already answered your question:
As I said, Julie is such a sweet girl, I’m sure she’ll be so happy and excited anyway, so I don’t know why I’m even upset at all. I think it’s just because I wanted the best for Julie.



Post # 13
163 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t blame you for feeling like that, I’d feel the exact same way. I think you hit the nail on the head, you care because Julie’s really close to you, and you want the best for her, so there’s nothing wrong with feeling like that. There’s not much you can really do without getting a little too involved though.

Like a PP mentioned, I’m worried that if he ever does realize he was too hasty, it’ll be beyond the return date.

Post # 14
3042 posts
Sugar bee

@SneakyBee:  I am a super upfront person and would probably say something. Depends on how sensitive he is tho, I guess. Tough call. But I’d be internally annoyed too- I totally get it. 

Post # 15
6361 posts
Bee Keeper

Hopefully Greg knows Julie’s taste more than you do.

I try to explain to people why good quality cut, color and clarity matter to me, and why it is likely to matter to them once they get it out from those jeweler’s lights, but in my experience, there’s a large group of people who care about size most of all, and they choose something….that, well, I wouldn’t have. But maybe they know that what they chose will really make them happy. As long as they’re happy, right? Anyway, your FI offered his best help, and Greg took from it what he wanted/could. Your FI should feel satisfied that he gave his friend the best advice he knew, and let it go. It’s between Greg and Julie now.

Post # 16
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honestly, a lot of people don’t care about these things as much as WB does. Let it be.

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