- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So I stopped in to the jewelery store in town that carries the ring I want because I was around the corner at the dentist and wanted to see the ring in person and wanted to get the current pricing (when I tried on before they didn’t have the exact ring and it was in a different town). Anyways, when I went in it was made clear to me by the passive aggressive nature of the saleswoman that she didn’t think that *I* was buying and so was trying to shoo me away. I will definitely be buying the ring and, yes saleslady, I will be paying for it, not Boyfriend or Best Friend, and yes I am happy with that. Though she was perfectly nice she made it clear that she was humoring me by letting me try on the ring. This really pisses me off because although I’m not buying today, I WILL be buying in the near future (the whole point of getting the pricepoint is so I can budget!). Clearly, I won’t be taken seriously until I go in with Boyfriend or Best Friend, and then I wonder when *I’m* the one to pull the credit card or the checkbook what they’re going to say.
What if I just wanted to buy myself a pretty ring and there was no Boyfriend or Best Friend in the picture period? It just really, really, really frustrates me this whole gendered expectation that the guy is supposed to buy the ring and though women are humored to let them pick it out, the guy is ultimately expected to buy it and therefore a woman walking in to a store on her own won’t be taken seriously.
ETA — and what sucks is this is the only store in a 60 mile radius to carry the brand I want.