Post # 1
My Bridal Shower/Bachelorette party is in 3 weeks. The invites were sent out 2 weeks ago and the RSVP is due August 13th because it’s being catered. My “best” friend I grew up (been friends since we were 3) hasn’t spoken to me that much in the past few years. She is really into partying and well I have an almost 3 year old son so I don’t party. She was invited to my shower and honestly is really one of the only people I REALLY want to come. She emails me a few nights ago and says “Sorry Tiff but I don’t know if I’m going to make it to your shower I don’t have a ride” Really? So I email her back and say “Well we can pick you up on our way it’s really no problem” It’s been 2 days with no response. I’m a little hurt I just want to be like HELLO whenever something has happened or gone wrong in your life who helps you? Who do you call? ME!!!!! I hate that I get walked all over all the time. It’s sad to say but she is really the only female friend I really have my own age. Woman my age are just so selfish. Just annoyed ugh that’s my rant.
Post # 3
Sorry that your friend might be bailing out on you. However, how old are you? You said something about women your age….
Post # 3
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ummm if that’s what you call a best friend then that is sad! My best friend would walk over hot coals to be there for me and I would do the same for her.
I think people use that term so loosily now…
Im sorry that she is acting this way and I hope you can enjoy your shower even if she is not there!
Post # 4
If you guys have drifted and haven’t really hung out much in years, i’m not surprised that this is happening. Put your energy towards people who are more actively in your lives.
Post # 5
You’re not alone in this. My three closest friends? Not one is coming to my wedding, little-lone even mentioned anything about my wedding. They are more conerned with partying and such. Ever since I moved to the ‘burbs and settled down we’ve been growing apart but the wedding made it more so.
And these girls 29, 30 and 30 something. It’s not like they’re kids!
You have to let it go and like Crayfish suggested, focus more on the people who are in the here and now.l
Post # 6
Im sorry!! Its a sucky situation. Just try to have fun, this is a happy time remember!!
Post # 7
One of my “best” friends is really disappointing me right now, too. I’m sorry she’s not being there for you. The best thing you can do is focus on those who care enough to make the effort and let them know how much you appreciate it. Be careful not to insult the people who do show up by bitching too much about so-and-so not being there. I’m not saying you would . . . I just know I’m going to have to make a really conscious effort not to do this myself.
Post # 8
In the same boat with one of my friends. I’m sorry you are going through this. 🙁 I agree that focusing on people who are there for you right now will help get you through this, and be happier in the process.
Post # 9
@MarryMeTiffany: First off, I’m sorry that this is happening. I’m 29 and I honestly can’t say I have a ‘best friend’. Although I have about two girl friends that I know I can depend on more than others.
I’ve found that there’s always little cliques throughout our life. The single, party group, the serious relationship group and the married/ or i have kids now group and thats part of the reason people drift. Not saying it’s a good excuse.
Definitely focus on the people who do take the time out for you instead of the negative stuff out there. Those ‘friends’ are missing out on a great person I bet. 🙂