- This Time Round
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I’ve already commented on the Black Tie issue, and agree that the Guest should call the Bride if they require further clarification on what is the dress-code (as I said in Reply # 40, as per Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette* the strict application of what constitutes Black Tie has changed in most circles of late… Dark Suits & Cocktail Dresses are now acceptable… so for most events and a majority of folks, needing to rent a tux wouldn’t be an issue to start with).
NOTE – I read recently that more Brides are using the Black Tie Dress Code purely because they want their guests to dress up for their Wedding… and not come in their Kahkis (there are enough casual events in life). And writing Black Tie is the one thing when it comes to dress code that is acceptable in most circles on the invite… so the tone of the event is set out to the Guest right from the get go, so there is no misunderstanding (and we all know how much Guests these days seem to need to be told what is “expected” of them… Etiquette for many have gone out the window… witness all the RSVP issues that Bride’s encounter)
Anyhow… that aside, I want to comment on the monetary value issue… that has now been put forth.
It saddens me to see Bees criticizes other Bees about their Budget and WHAT THEY CHOOSE to spend money on for THEIR Wedding Day.
Weddings like other places in life… where money comes into play… and well none of us are equal… everyone has different jobs, incomes, savings, investments, family circumstances etc.
WHY judge each other on that, as an example…
If a Bride makes $ 40,000 a year, and chooses to spend 10% of her income… $ 4,000 on her Wedding Day… then we should be hopeful that she has a great day filled with Friends, Family, and Wonderful memories. We should wish no less for the Bride who has access to $ 400,000 and chooses to spend that SAME 10% on her wedding, for a $ 40,000 event.
We should seek to wish them both EQUAL LOVE AND JOY. As Bees we should be supportive of other Bees plan and happiness… as that is the SOLE REASON that all of us post here… to share our excitement.
It does no good to be critical of one another… especially so when it comes to money… because (a) doesn’t concern us personally, or (b) in the long run we have no control over any how… see point (a)
Just my 2 cents (lol, and that is the same amount no matter how much income you have)