- 5 years ago
Hello, me again,
I don’t make friends easily, and I worked my butt off to essentially ‘crack in’ to a circle of friends over the past two years. I finally felt really happy, felt like my boyfriend and I were finally fitting in. I got on well with the girls and he started to become friendly with their boyfriends/husbands. However now that we have broken up, I am feeling resentful toward him as I worked so hard to make friends with these girls and he just drifted in and fit in perfectly without having to put in any effort.
Any advice on how to cope with this? I know he has every right to be hanging out with them (which he is after our split) but now I feel like if he ever got a girlfriend and brought her into our friendship group then I would feel obliged to leave and what if my friends like her better?
He did have different circles before we met and in the first two years we hung out with his group and then I wanted to have new girlfriends so I made my way into another group and he followed.
I know I’m being an idiot but I feel like I”M the one who has to go make new friends now.
He is even going with them to Carols by Candlelight to a church he doesn’t even like with our friends and that he didn’t even go to in the last few years of our relationship. Things like that are annoying me even though they shouldn’t. He can do what he wants, why is it bugging me!