(Closed) Annoyed that Open Bar will be 30% of my wedding budget

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

That really sucks :(. Have you thought about maybe just doing an open bar for a few hours? They don’t really need any alcohol before or during dinner. I know that it’s the norm for your friends, but they can suck it up and wait a few hours, and that might save you quite a lot of money!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Thats a hard situation!

Are you doing a full top shelf bar?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

perhaps set a limit for the bar, and after the guests reach that limit they have to pay for their drinks? or have a beer and wine only open bar, and other drinks are cash bar (except for soft drinks and water of course – those should be provided to guests free)

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

That’s why we are not having one…

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m in the same boat … fortunately, a full bar is included in our venue rental (phew!) and was very affordable, when you broke it down, per person. As much as i’d like to think i’d only do beer/wine – we just can’t do that, with our family and friends, and because of where we are. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I second the limit for the bar idea—

In my area, open bar comes with the meal package—- I could ONLY imagine if it didn’t.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d have open bar for limited time only and then cash bar from then, that way you could use the extra money to either get your centrepieces and band or keep it in your savings, I personally feel that if in your familly it’s not the norm then others should just accept it… I myself have only been to one wedding with an open bar the rest have all been cash bars 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Jeez.  What about people who choose not to drink or are underage?  That would have been a dealbreaker for me in booking my venue.

Limit it to an hour two and pass through the grapevine that it will be limited to an hour or two so the heavy drinkers can prepare.  When I find out that the bar is limited to a specified amount of time I usually bring a flask in my purse for later in the evening.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@murfed13:  well a monetary limit would still limit the amount of alcohol they could drink, it’s not unlimited drinks for a certain amount of money, it would be however many drinks 10k would cover, definitely spread the word about a limit 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you think paying per drink rather than per head would be less expensive?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@plzhalp:  I’m not sure where the OP is, but at the venue we’re using, a beer is, on average, $6. A cocktail is around $9. For us, for a 5 hour open bar, we’re paying under $40 a head – even though there will be some people not drinking, or not drinking as much, the majority of our friends and family will certainly be drinking more (a LOT more) than $40 of booze, so it works out well. In fact, we’re already joking that the venue has no idea what they’re in for with our crowd (big irish/italian family and a bunch of tattoo artists/musicians/partiers!) 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Close the bar for an hour or 1/2 hour during dinner (you could have wine on the tables), and close it 1/2 hour before the reception ends. Can you have one or two signature drinks and non-alcoholic drinks during the cocktail hour, to save money there? Or shorten the time of your cocktail hour?

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