(Closed) Annoyed with father's wedding and don't know how to handle it!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

At least your wedding is first.  How frustrating.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s shitty. I’m getting married 5 days after my Dad and am making every effort to have mine be very different from his. There is some green in both weddings but when his Fiance said their’s would be sage I made sure mine was apple green, so again they would be different.

 

Sorry to hear your situation but know that you will be first so everyone sees it the first time with you!! They will be jaded by the second time 😉

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t see it as a big deal….he’s the one who will look like the copycat

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I can see why your upset, I am happy that your wedding is first.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Truth is he’ll the one who will look like he jacked all of your ideas do I wouldn’t worry. As long as his date remains after yours, don’t sweat it in the long run. I know it’s really annoying but it’ll only reflect on him. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

Black and white damask isn’t exactly uncommon these days, but I can see why you’re feeling frustrated.  I think the best thing to do is to avoid sharing details about your wedding with your dad for the next few weeks.  Like you said, yours is first so if anyone notices, they won’t think you copied him.  To be honest, I doubt too many people will notice!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

And (as much as it sucks), realistically, do you expect your dad to put together a wedding from scratch? He probably doesn’t have the faintest idea what he’s doing, and doesn’t know where to begin except to imitate you. I’m a little surprised that his wife-to-be is on board with it – I would think she would be reluctant to be seen to be copying you – but who knows?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

stop sharing anymore details with your dad, and be greatful yours is first, it will end up looking like the 2 of you co-ordinated with wedding schemes, but it’s your dad at least, just try to be happy for him and move past it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Don’t tell them anything else.  If they ask, just be vague or lie.  This seems to happen a lot.  I don’t think the intent is always malicious.  Sometimes, I just think people hear a good idea and think, “Oooh, I like that!”  I know that happened to me several times in the wedding planning process and I was terrified people would think I was copying them with the things I “borrowed”.  Just take solace in the fact that his wedding will be old news, since yours is first. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Mimicry is the sincerist form of flattery.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s going to look like they copied you, I know it stinks but no one ever remembers this stuff. It dosen’t take much for the same things to look completely different. Also remember it’s not your dad driving these things it’s his fi. I wouldn’t share anymore!

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