- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Hi Bees! Ok I just need to rant a little bit and also ask for some advice on how to not come across as a turd but still get what I want in this situation. Sorry in advance for the long post just want you guys to get the full story.
Here we go… So a little over two months ago my bridesmaids and I went dress shopping. I have 5 bridesmaids, one of which is my fiancé’s 16 year old cousin. All of my bridesmaids are paying for their dresses (which everyone agreed was ok as the dress price was very reasonable for a bridesmaid dress) and I let them know if anyone was having trouble paying for their dress I would gladly help (even though I was praying no one would need help paying because I’m a broke recent college graduate haha). Only one girl (not fiance’s cousin) could not afford her dress and another bridesmaid graciously paid for the dress because I could not afford paying for another girl’s dress, for reasons I am about to go explain.
Fiance’s cousin (let’s call her A), A’s mother, the other bridesmaids, and myself go to David’s Bridal to pick dresses. Only 2 girls, one being “A,” ended up ordering their dresses that day. For some reason “A’s” mother was in a huge rush to leave and since the girls were picking different styles, decided to go with the first dress “A” tried on while the other girls continued to try on dresses. “A’s” mom asked me if I could order the dress at the store when we were all done and she would pay me back the next time she saw me because they needed to leave. Keep in mind “A” as well as my own cousin were not extended the offer for me to buy their dresses, not because they are less important, but because I knew that since they are younger and don’t have jobs that their parents would be purchasing the dress. Not trying to say that my wedding is soooooo important and everyone should spend their hard earned money on it, but from what I can see from both my cousin and Fiance’s cousin’s parents’ lifestyles, neither are struggling financially. So I say sure no problem. I see “A’s” mother somewhat often so I figured nbd she’ll pay me back.
Anyway, here we are over 2 months and approximately 3 family functions later and “A” has her dress and I have not been paid back. The first time I let it slide assuming it may have slipped her mind. Next time.. Still nothing. So I text “A” asking her if she can give her mom a reminder to bring the money during the next function but not to let on that I asked her to. (There is a language barrier which is why I haven’t asked her myself). Then at the most recent family dinner, my FMIL tells “A’s” mom, hey the dress is in and it was ____ dollars, you need to pay. (FMIL does not hold her tongue for anything haha). I am on my way out the door at this point, so I kind of left in the middle of the conversation, and I am expecting (not really) to have the money waiting for me when I get back, but FMIL tells me that “A’s” mother didn’t have the cash on her, which I can understand because I know not everyone carries cash on them, but there is no way she didn’t know I would be there. My FI lives with his parents and I am there all the time. We have to go shopping for the groomsmen outfits soon and “A’s” younger brother is one of the groomsman! I hope she doesn’t try and pull this crap again because there is no way my FI is laying out a penny for the suit for his cousin after this.
Thanks for listening! Any suggestions on what to do is welcome!