Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
Getting married soon…and having to spend more and more time with my little sister who is also a bridesmaind and who’s 17 and she’s really starting to get on my nerves…
I love her and stuff but she can be so smug and self absorbed (as I’m sure most teens are) I just ignore it for the most part but one thing that’s really bothering me latley is she seems to put me down alot, mostly in reference to my age.
She makes jokes about me being so old (I just turned 30)…just today at the table she somehow managed to mention the fact that I ws the oldest person at the table….she makes comments about my age all the time.
Ive heard her say many offensive things about older people as well as elderly people and It really bothers me that she’s sort of age prejudice. I have tried to explain to her gently that she needs to watch her mouth, becase if she’s lucky she will be old someday too. …she scoffs at the idea that she will EVER be old.
uggh. I want to tell my mother to put her butt in check, but would this annoy you too? I mean, she acts like I’m over the hill..and I just kinda feel like she’s trying to make me feel bad about myself or something..which is silly.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
It is annoying, but she’s a child. You have to keep that in mind for right now. She’ll grow up in the next few years (hopefully) and you will be able to have a good relationship with her.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Sounds like she has a textbook case of being 17. Don’t take it to heart, we were all like that.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@Pinksapphire: this +1. At seventeen, 30 seems ancient. I’m 31 (I’ll be 32 by the time I’m married) and when I think back to being a teenager…I felt like someone in their 30’s was SO old. It seems funny to her now, but as she gets older she will quickly realize that age is but a number.
It’s annoying, but also harmless in the grand scheme of things. It’s not worth worrying about too much.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Being a little and *ahem* much younger sister myself…..I remember doing the same thing at her age!!!!! (its 13yrs difference between me and my older sister too!!!)
I remember enjoying and watching my sisters reaction to my comments!!!
She is just doing it to get a rise out of you…..its the easiest way for her to do so!!!
Just let her see it doesn’t phase you and she’ll soon find it boring!!!
good luck!!
Post # 7
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Honey bee
@laurn88: Sounds like she has a textbook case of being 17.
Yup, that’s what I’d say too. Try not to worry about it!
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
Why wait for your mother to put her in check… do it yourself! lol. I would of told my sister off a long time ago. There’s a reason I don’t have my sister as a bridesmaid. 😛
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Oh wow she sounds…….like a typical 17 year old.
I think, whether we remember it or not most of us at some point in our lives thought we were going to be kids/young forever. And when you’re 17 you think 30 is “old” and sooooo far away.
One day the reality will kick in, and by then she will have no doubt forgotten how she acted.
Just be the mature one (which you are) in this situation and take no notice nor take it to heart.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
Thanks..yeah, I don’t even remember thinking 30 was sooo old, I remember feeling like it was a long ways away…and I remember not really being able to “age” people I came into contact with…I just knew if they looked like a teenager like me, older or really old. LOL.
I’ll try to just ignore her…I have asked her to knock it off. She can be quite rude to my parents too, very demanding and snippy. I try and tell her in the big sister voice that she needs to behave. She prides herself on her beauty as I’m sure I did at that age,…..and I tell her when she’s not acting very beautiful.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
Yes, typical thinking for a 17 yr old BUT it is rude to verbalize. As you said “she can be quite rude to my parents too”. Rudeness is wrong no matter what age and she shouldn’t be allowed to get away with these comments.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Sounds to me like a typical 17 year old. My fiance is 26, I’m 23, and his sister is 17 and she drives us mental! So I can only imagine how nuts your sister is driving you!
I personally find I get this in reverse at my work. The 40/50 something women always make remarks about me being a baby and me fiance and I being too young for marriage/children. I have to laugh at it each time as they don’t know me and haven’t even met my fiance.
As for the sister again – I choose to ignore her. She is really mad as my partner doesn’t want her at the wedding. I thought at first he should invite her, but then realised he doesn’t make decisions lightly, and now completely respect his choice.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@fresitachulita: Dang, what a jerk. Remind her that she’ll be that age someday and won’t that be fun, right?