- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I am so annoyed with my mom
I should start off by saying that we don’t have a good relationship and that this was always a reason I hesitated in having a big wedding, because I felt she would “ruin” it. Probably on purpose.
My mom has some mental health issues and is often unreasonable and attention seeking, for instance, she once almost knocked over my grandma at christmas when my gma was opening her present (a picture frame of a car that my dad had bought her) to tell the whole family (my dad’s side at that) that my dad didnt let her drive. Though my dad did cancel her driving class, for legal reasons my mom actualyl couldnt drive at that time. That happened about 15-20 years before that christmas incident just to give you a hint as to what she is like.
So far my mom has refused to help with pretty much anything and criticizes what I do have done
1. She did not congratulate my on the engagement but merely said “well if that’s waht makes you happy then told me that if everyone else already knew but her that she would be mad (she was out of town, so I called her and then held off on telling ppl abt the engagement til she came back a month later)
2. Said she would throw the shower but then didnt do anything so I ended up planning and paying for it. She eventually paid me back but cmon. She asked me to help her plan it even though I told her that would be weird then just sat back and did diddly squat
3. She told me my dress (vera wang) looked “cheap” and was super rude at the store making faces and barely answering the consultant
4. She called my family in MX and told them not to come. Told them repeatedly that she didnt want to be inconvenienced with having them there so to Not Come.
those are just the big things. Now she’s just doing a bunch of little things but I am So FEd UP!
Today she overheard my dad and I talking about the grandparents entrance so she was like “Dont have people walk in” and told me she wouldnt let her mother walk in. Then she said the gparants could sit in the back bc they have wheelchairs, not with the family.
Also, remember, she has mental issues so it’s not like I can sit down and talk with her bc in 29 years that has never gone well. Usually when she starts my family lets her have her way (just encouraging her behavior) or changes the subject.
Bees, how do I deal with her??!!?!?