(Closed) Annoyed with my XBox Obsessed Fiance

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We introduced our wedding party to a song from World of Warcraft and used Castlevania music in our cocktail hour mix so I guess I don’t really get what the big deal is. My husband is way into gaming and his game time is my alone time to do whatever I want. I like to have a few hours to myself every day to read, surf the forums, write, chat with friends, watch shows he doesn’t get into etc…

My husband not only plays games (and has 9 different gaming systems currently hooked up– systems dating back to the 1980’s to the upgraded PS3 he bought 2 montsh ago) alone and online, but he also does art based on games and makes music based on gaming theme songs. He enjoys perusing flea markets for hours for old Sega/Nintendo games. Half his clothing is game related. I like going to the flea markets and helping him look because he gets so excited when he finds a copy of Mega Man 4 for under $10 for some old school system that I can’t help be be happy with him.

I play a few of the games myself as well. Sometimes I get a bit upset when he’s hogging the PS3 lol. He best not hog the Wii when Epic Mickey comes out. haha. I buy him the games, I bought him the Wii. Last summer I took him to a 3 day long classic gaming tournament and spent 8 hours by myself each day relaxing while he played.

Right before our wedding, I made him a Gamers Delight Dinner. I made a Pac Man pizza and a bunch of other gaming related food. He carries pictures of that pizza around on his phone so he can brag to his friends about it. haha On more than one occasion he has thanked me for not b!tching at him about gaming. Apparently many of his friends wives complain a lot and I really don’t get it. Don’t these women have hobbies of their own?

To the girls who complain about the gaming…what do you enjoy doing? How would you feel if he complained about your yoga, shopping, knitting, scrapbooking etc?

At least in my case, husband puts real life before the games, but he still plays for a good 2-3 hours most days which is fine. I like having that time to myself. We have plenty of us time. He’s never once ignored me or reality to play a game. Before we met he sometimes stayed on WoW all night but after we met he cancelled his account, even though I encouraged him to keep it. I hope he at least gives it a shot when the new expansion comes out because it makes him happy.

I look at all the posts on the forums about cheating guys, porn addictions, guys who won’t stop drinking or smoking weed, guys who frequent strip clubs etc. I look at all the people I know IRL whose guys do all that crap also.

And then I look at my awesome husband and I thank my lucky stars that I found a guy whose biggest “vice” is something that involves him sitting in our living room fighting monsters on the tv and occasionally calling me in to show me how cool looking some graphics are.

@ hotpinkpoptart

That is not someone who just enjoys gaming. Blowing up at you or anyone else IRL over a game is a serious anger control issue that needs to be addressed and if he does not want to hear it, then I would strongly reconsider your future with this man.   

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband is a PS3 nerd. Madden, MLB, and now Call of Duty (which I bought for him on the condition that he teaches me to play, lol). He gave me crap last week for being on the computer and on my Droid, and I told him when he stops zoning on his PS3, he can make fun of me, but until then, to shut it!

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s concerning that some of you are laughing at this (i.e.”I laughed when I read this because that’s my life too, LOL LOL!”)

Most of your SOs have serious addictions…I would listen to the Bee who was talking about her EX…and take a hard look at things. I would hate living like that.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

*Raises hand* I’m the fiance of a gamer. When FH and I started dating he would game from the time he came home until it was time for bed, and literally all day on the weekends. It was ridiculous, we also have a roommate (his best friend) and he has no gf and plays video games from the time he gets home until bed every single night, so when I would want to talk to FH he would bring up the roommate. Like a child, he wants to do what his friend is doing. I’m not his mother, nor am I going to beg or pull teeth to date my bf. Unfortunately my FH was really into pot at the time too. Well, I told him he needed to calm the gaming down, weed needed to go. I was doing all the cooking, all the cleaning and had hardly any FH time, and the extra time I had was lonely. Our roommate had his xbox set up in the front room, my FS had his set up in our bedroom, so I couldn’t watch tv, the only thing I could do was go on my laptop, and I don’t like to be on the computer all day at work then go home and get back on it. So finally we set up “date nights” twice a week, Sundays and Wed, after about 6pm on Sunday and after work on Wed. he was mine. Then I started feeling like he was bummed out the entire time. So after we started getting serious I told him I was having a hard time with being put in second place to his xbox. So for a few months he would only game on the weekends, which was okay, he wouldn’t play that long either. He gave up weed, which I was so relieved about, just imagine having the xbox zombie puls the laziness effects of weed, ugh I couldn’t get him to do anything! Thankfully now he doesn’t do weed anymore. However, he does still play games. Not as much as before though, we eat dinner together, watch a show or two then he games for an hour or so while I watch TV, or surf the net, and we go into the bedroom and chill together before we go to bed. So it’s been sooooo much better. I do hope that by the time we have kids this addiction will go away.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

hahaha oh dear, girls… I actually play xbox with my FH!

there are a lot of really fun co-op games so maybe you could give it a try. we play together, laugh and (I) scream at the monsters and we both really enjoy it (he especially enjoys when something scary happens and i throw the controller and run out). then we take turns and i’ll play (and get stuck and annoyed and have him beat a hard part) or he’ll play and i’ll… still scream. this setup only works if they’re not playing with people online. i think that’s weird and there are always little cussing 10 year olds that try to kill you so… no online play when i’m there lol.

i’m curious how old these guys are, just because mine is 30 and will only play for a little bit – sometimes i’m the one pushing to keep playing (i’m 23, so it’s not like i’m judging). i know that some younger guys my age play for hours upon hours UPON HOURS, like it’s an inverse relationship with their *ahem* other stamina, so maybe age is a factor too in how much they like to play, or the fact that they’ve grown up with more advanced/interactive videogame technology.

Some of the SOs mentioned here though? total addicts that need to reconnect with real life. Be careful with some of your situations, girls – sounds like a serious problem in some cases.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@11eleven: My fiance would love you! haha. He plays COD on PS3. He likes when I ask questions about the game or when I let him talk about why he chose the weapon he chose. LOL.

I agree in some relationships it can begin to take over, but it really depends. I like that Fiance has a hobby he shares with his brother. They get on almost every night and play together for a little while. It gets intense with the headphones and the yelling sometimes, but I just play around on WB or study! I only play with the Wii, but I can see why he finds his game fun!

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@elliestan: I agree, there are some fun ones to play together! I do not play the PS3, but we play Mario on Wii! It is funny because you are on the same screen and Fiance will act all mad when I accidentally push his man into a hole! (yes, you can kill your partner by accident lol). To answer your question about age, Fiance is 26, I am 24, and his brother is 31. The new call of duty game came out this week, so him and his brother have been playing online together A LOT. As long as it does not interfere with our relationship, does not bother me one bit!

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SandraCarol: yes! i play mario & mario cart with my brother (who’s 27) on wii whenever we see each other!

FH just got an xbox slim so i’m taking his old one home with me when i visit him this weekend (we live in different states). for multiplayer we like to play gears of war, resident evil, red dead redemption, army of two, scott pilgrim (so cute because our characters kiss when we finish a level!), street fighter and limbo, which isn’t multiplayer but it’s very strategic and we work together coming up with ideas to help the character advance and take turns trying to get him where he needs to go. videogames can be great teambuilders, y’all! haha

Post # 40
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My fiancé is also an Xbox addict. He is playing a video game as I type this. He’s on it all day wheather it’s playing video games or watching dorky things on Netflix. I’m trying to talk to him right now but he’s too busy playing a game with his dork friends. He’s such a dork and even goes to dork school and wants to be a video game designer 🙁 I try telling him that there aren’t many opportunities for him to find employment if he even gets his degree but he won’t listen to me. I hate his stupid obsession with video games so much. I feel like its ruining our relationship and our future. Hes getting so fat cuz he just lays in bed messing with his Xbox. I beg him every single day to work out but all I get are empty promises. On top of everything, his room is a nasty mess. Trash all over the place and clothes all over the floor. It’s so bad I can’t even walk in there without stepping on stuff. It’s just gross. I don’t know what to do anymore. Idk how I’m supposed to deal with all this for the rest of my life. Damn that Xbox is killing him and our relationship 🙁

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