Post # 1
My SO got fired more than a month ago. I have been completely supportive and suggested we tackle things one at a time. This means first he should get employed and then we will think about getting engaged. He said this was fine.
A week after getting fired, he told me he wanted to do it no matter what in March. I knew this was kind of irresponsible but he reassured me that all he wanted to do was start a life with me and an engagement was the first step. He assured me by May, with a Master’s, he would certainly secure something.
Now he has gone back on this and changed his mind yet again and said we are to wait til he finds a job. I know that this is the absolute best decision financially, but a part of me is like “oh man!”. I wish he never told me he was bumping it up to March if he wasn’t 100% sure. I just feel like I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster. Sucks when you think it’s a month away at most and then in 2 weeks you find out that that plan is not that set in stone and dependent on another variable.
Post # 3
I’m sorry, that’s really annoying. My SO used to do that often with smaller things. He knew what I wanted and he wanted to do [insert whatever] too, and he also didn’t want to disappoint me. So he’d tell me it would happen and then when reality came around, he would tell me that it wouldn’t be possible. I hope that I’ve gotten mad enough and told him enough times that I would rather he be realistic up front to get it through his head!
Just keep thinking about how that this is the right decision.
Post # 4
That’s annoying that he changed his mind, but I will look at it from the perspective of my SO, and how I think a lot of guys tend to be in general. My SO has absolutely zero concept of time. For some reason a month, a year, etc. seems so far off to him. He will say things like, “I will definitely be promoted again by April!” when he just received a promotion in May of the previous year. He also says things like, “I see us having children by the time my niece is three.” Even though his niece is almost two already, and we don’t plan on having kids for a few more years. Perhaps he really didn’t realize how quickly March is coming, and he also figured he’d have a job by then. Just remember that this is for the best, and things will end up working out a lot better if he is secure in a position before you start planning for a wedding.
Post # 5
Men are so insensitive sometimes. I’m sure he didn’t even realize how that would make you feel. I don’t think they fully grasp how important a proposal is to a woman. I’m sorry love. This is poopy all around. Best of luck to your SO on his job hunt though!