Post # 1
I know lots of us are excited for our own bachelorette parties, but sometimes I think these can get out of hand or just plain annoying. Here are a couple examples of bachelorette parties I was less than thrilled about:
1) I attended one party a year ago where in the middle of the night (like midnight) the Maid/Matron of Honor whipped out stap-ons and wanted EVERYONE to put one on. I flat out said no and she said “Well everyone else is doing it! Don’t rain on our parade!” I went to the bride, told her I had a wonderful time but felt tired and wanted to go home. She quietly said she was mortified and wished she could come with!
2) I was out this last weekend for a friends’ birthday (he turned 25) and a bachelorette group came in wearing shirts that said “Look at us, we are ready to mingle, because this is ***’s last night single. (She’s ready for a last hurrah, boys!)” I felt it was inappropriate, but whatever its her party and it was probably meant as a joke. Then they came up doing the necklace “Sucks for a Buck” where you bite a candy off the necklace and give her a buck. The bride was so tipsy that when the birthday boy bit onto the necklace she stumbled backward and the necklace broke. Her Maid/Matron of Honor DEMANDED we fork over $200 since that is what she would have gotten if he hadn’t broke the necklace. I told her to take a hike at which point she started screaming at me, threw her drink in my face, and then their whole party got kicked out. Insane.
3) Same weekend, different group. They weren’t too bad, until the one girl pulled out an airhorn and kept sounding it in a bar that was noisy to begin with. Fiance finally got so frustrated he grabbed the airhorn from her and gave it to the owner (he used to bounce at the bar we were at). She went and yelled at the owner to give it back and he said “What? Like this?” and sounded the airhorn until it ran out. It was funny until she demanded free drinks for their entire group for spoiling their fun and end up knocking over a table onto my foot from her fit. 🙁
I have witnessed plenty of bachelorette parties where everyone has fun and doesn’t annoy the other bar goers. I think mine is going to be fairly low-key with bingo followed by karaoke on a Wednesday night (Yes it’s Ladies Night, oh what a night!).
How do you feel about it? Can bachelorette parties get out of control or is it all fun and games? I tend to get annoyed with the outrageous ones, but the incidents this weekend made me absolutely sure I wouldn’t be acting like that during mine.
Post # 3
Oh I think that some go horribly out of control!! Your plan sounds just fine my dear!! 🙂
Post # 4
Wow – the three parties you described are a little much (and by little, I mean way over the top ridiculous!). But I feel like parties like that are the exception, not the rule. You’ve just gotten unlucky enough to be around a bunch of crazy ones lately.
Post # 5
@FutureKMM: Oh I completely agree MOST bachelorette parties are fun and it seems like everyone has a good time! I just mentioned to my friend (who is also getting married) about this weekend and she said she was shocked our birthday group ruined two bachelorette parties and that is doesn’t matter what bachelorettes do, people should be understanding because that is the nature of those parties. I had to disagree wholeheartedly because I do think some get completely out of control!
Post # 6
There is a big difference between having a really great time partying and being over the top ridiculous (there is no fine line kind of thing here) and I’m with you, things have no reason to get out of control. That is definitely not necessary to have a good time.
Post # 7
Yeah those parties were over the top!
To be frank, I have the same respect and fidelity for my Fiance now as I will after we’re married, so I will NOT be “mingling with the boys” at my bacelorette party, wherever it is. If any of my BMs breaks out strap-ons, I’ll be the first one to leave my own bachelorette party!
The party always becomes what the partiers want it to become…
Post # 8
I personally think that the BEST bachelorette parties involve good quality time with your favorite girls, no matter what that entails. Great girl time is different for everyone – for some girls, this means taking shots and dancing on bars and flirting with boys. I’m about 4 years too old for that — but I think it’s fine….as long as they don’t disrupt any strangers’ nights!
@ serasvictoria your stories are hilarious! Not in a good way! I usually cringe when I see a bachelorette party enter the bar I’m at, just because it has the potential to go very very wrong….
Post # 9
I get what your saying. If you want to do all that silly stuff do it at home and away from everyone else. Airhorns out are ludicrous!
I have a group of us going to Vegas. Friday night we will wear t-shirts that say “End of an Era” but absolutely no veil or penis things. It is more casual times and just having fun. Saturday night we will get all dressed up and go dancing.
Personally for me all the veil, penis stuff is way to ridiculous. More power to anyone who wants to do that but it is just not me.
Post # 10
Haha, those do sound pretty crazy! Reading this reminded me of some news stories I’ve read about how some bachelorette parties will hit gay bars with the intent of having fun without getting hit on, but how that can also be frustrating for the regular patrons of said bars…
I’m not having a bachelorette party, at least not a typical one, because that’s pretty much the opposite of my personality. 🙂
Post # 11
I’m all about having a good time with my girls for my bachelorette party but it can be done in different ways. My two best friends have had very different bachelorette parties. One we went to a pottery painting place and dinner. One we went to a psychic reading then out to the bars with fun bachelorette coupons and penis necklaces. Both were a total blast and perfect for the bride. I know mine will likely include a night of drinking but I can never imagine being “ready to mingle” with other men or ruining other peoples’ night at the bars…that is just tacky!
Post # 12
Im flawed at the moment that a bachellorette party can even go that way, talk about OTT.
Ive been to a few were they have had a good time, not obnoxiously loud but have played games, dares and stuff. And every patron of the pubs we have been to are friendly and generally its a good time.
I think they do have the potential to be a bit crazy, but I think that as a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid you wouldnt want to ruin the night for the bride or you would at least KNOW the bride so you wouldnt make her uncomfortable.
Post # 13
Well, you certainly can’t control what other random bachelorette parties consist of if you bump into them while out, but in terms of your first point. I think it’s the bride’s fault for not either telling her Maid/Matron of Honor what she did or did not want at her b party. Also, that Maid/Matron of Honor clearly either didn’t even know that the bride had no interest in that or just didn’t care and wanted to push her own agenda. Definitely not a good thing. Personally, I agree that all of those instances sound awful! I actually just got home from my own bachelorette party today and am so thankful that my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids made mine perfect for me!
Post # 14
It sounds like you are an unfortunate magnet for these bad parties! I personally dont get to plan mine (my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man demand they plan it all and dont tell me anything) but in order for me to go along with it, I gave them 1 rule: No pee pees flying about!!
I agree that these things get out of hand, but hopefully if us brides try to keep the activities fun, but classy, then we will all have good memories of ours!! 🙂
Post # 15
Oh I have another story (Yes…yes maybe I am a magnet)! We were at our favorite little haunt and got up to leave for my friend’s house (At about 11:30 it is just too loud, so we leave). As we are walking by this bachelorette party the bride reached out and pinched my FI’s butt and then screamed “That’s 18!!” and all the girls started laughing. Heck, I started laughing too, but the Fiance was SO ticked off he made me go say something to them. I went over and said “Hey, #18 is mad you pinched his bottom. If you all look sorry for a minute I will give you $5” They all looked down with these ridiculously sad faces, so I gave them the $5 and the Fiance said “They weren’t seriously sad, were they?” Ahh…he is so cute. 🙂
Post # 16
The bach parties I’ve been to the bride dictated the mood for the party and we all followed suit. One was out of control but yet the bride had a really good time and she wasn’t even drunk. But she had fun playing games at the different bars. I wouldn’t have done those things but she thought they were fun. I’ve been to parties where we are basically so bored we are picking our noses! LOL So I think it’s hard to find that happy medium.