(Closed) Annoying MOH (venting)

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2972 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Apart from the bridesmaid dress (which I think you have every right to see) I think you are overreacting. She is only trying to help, and even though it might get annoying at least you have someone who cares.

Post # 4
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You “can’t” see her bridesmaid’s dress? Is she confusing herself with the bride?

Her intentions might be good, but that doesn’t make it ok to (s)mother you. “Thanks, I’ve already made a list and have all that covered.” Repeat as necessary. Also, insist on seeing the dress. These kinds of games are the last thing you need while planning your wedding.

Post # 5
1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My MoH is driving me up a dang wall lately. She means well which is sweet, but it’s just…..rawr!

Example: She’s planning my bridal shower. We’re getting married on 11/9, and she asked me back in MAY what I wanted to do and I had to tell her right now because she’s “busy and has a life too.” Okay, I get that. So now it’s July and she emailed my bridesmaids and mother to ask them about the shower and freaked out when they hadn’t replied to her after about 12 hours of her having sent the email. My mom was off work that day. My bridesmaid was at work and going to college at night. The other was having a baby…She sent me SEVEN texts about how frustrated she was that she couldn’t plan because nobody would talk to her and she can’t do it all by herself and it’s oh so horrible. When I offered to help she declined, so then I asked everyone if they’d heard from her they all said “Yeah, she emailed me at like 9:30 this morning, I haven’t had a chance to reply but I’m going to answer her tomorrow morning.” T__T

Example: I’m trying to plan the rehearsal and tie down a time the day before (we have out of town bridal party so I don’t want it earlier than that) and she’s like, “Can you just wait until after 4?” Honey, the sun sets at 4:45 in November. Sorry. “Well I can’t take off work because I’m going on vacation two weeks before your wedding and all of my leave is going to go toward my next cruise, which boils down to even an hour or two that I need!” Okay, take Leave Without Pay (we both work for the same agency) for an hour. “I can’t, I have to pay my dad back for the next vacation.” Ladies, one hour of our pay (we make the same amount) is $14.59 before taxes. I’m sure your dad will understand an hour. Once. When I said I’d just start without her and have to tell her what to do when she gets there she said, “Well it’s a Friday afternoon, I can’t guarantee anything for time and I don’t want to get there and only be there for fifteen minutes.” ….Okay? So do you just not want to do this?

She also wants a dinner to go with it (even though we can’t afford to pay for everyone to have a rehearsal dinner) in Downtown Annapolis and doesn’t want to have it pot luck style back at someone’s house because “we’re already going to be in Annapolis three times that week anyway for our nails and the rehearsal AND the wedding!” Okay, don’t come to dinner, then. Go home. Get some sleep.

Example: We’re having a “spa day” the weekend before – my idea, she has been calling for me to schedule it, which is great and I appreciate it. So she was telling me that she called this one place and it’s $59/person so I should ask and get money from everyone. So I did. And then she got mad because I didn’t wait and get a final quote so she could work in tax. So I held onto the one check I had and told everyone else not to bother yet. Come to find out it’s just that straight amount, so I asked her if she wanted the check and she said no, give me all the money at once, get it while I’m on vacation, I’m leaving tomorrow and will be back Sunday and then I’m going to go pay. Okay. Sure. That’s fine. So she asked when I wanted to do it, that she was thinking 4 oclock so we can all go get dinner after and drinks. I said great, as long as we’re not all asleep after (as a joke!! You know, because massages feel good) and she was like, “Well what do you want then? Cuz no offense but I can’t read your mind and you had once said mimosas and waffles.” I did say that…back when she was worried about us all getting oily and having our clothes stick to us. But apparently this place doesn’t use oil so there’s no problem. I said it was fine. It was a joke. Lighten up. Schedule it at 4 and give everyone a chance to have a life earlier in the day.

*twitch* I know these are all small things and I’m not trying to hijack your post. Just relating that mine, too, is getting on my nerves a bit.




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