(Closed) Annoying Neighbor – what to do?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

If your Fiance wants to go downstairs, I think that’s actually the best first step (if notes didn’t work). If he is really polite and just says “Hey, we were wondering if it would be possible for you guys to find another area to smoke, as the smoke is coming in our house a lot.” Notes are easy to ignore, and can come across as passive aggressive even if you don’t mean them to be. If you go down and ask nicely if there’s any way to remedy the problem (and in fact let them know specifically that there’s problem), you’re trying to solve the issue between the two of you without getting anyone else involved.

If you’re really opposed to him talking to her, I would honestly just call the landlord and let him know there are a number of issues that are causing you guys some trouble, and you can say you didn’t feel comfortable addressing her about them face to face because you weren’t sure how she’d handle it. Part of the landlord’s job is to make sure you can live in peace in your own apartment. If there’s a no pets policy and that was something that made you want to live there, it’s something you can fairly bring up.

The smoking is super annoying (I used to live in a 6 plex where 4 of the 5 other apartments had pot smokers), but that’s one of those things that unless it’s meant to be a no-smoking complex, he probably won’t do anything about that. They have the right to smoke on the front porch (assuming it’s their space, not shared? That wasn’t clear), and while it totally sucks that it’s going in your room, they may not be willing to go elsewhere. Annoying neighbours are super lame.

Post # 4
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

notes are in fact a bit passive agressive in my opinion. You guys should address them face to face – it’s the mature thing to do.

Post # 5
1077 posts
Bumble bee

I for one think that notes are not passive-aggresive, esp. considering that you guys aren’t home at the same time. Personally if I was doing something that bothered a neighbor I would rather read a note about it when I got home in the afternoon then try to deal with it early in the morning or at night, that would feel much more confrontational to me. I would just contact your property manager and explain what’s going on. Your post describes the problems without being dramatic really well, I would say basically the same thing to him. Most leases have some kind of policy about where on the property you can smoke, if it’s allowed at all. 

Post # 6
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s time to call the landlord. You’ve asked them (via notes) to stop. 

I feel your pain with the smoking. We used to have a lovely balcony where we could sit out and enjoy a nice summer evening… until the new guy downstairs moved in and his entourage of club bunnies are outside on *his* balcony smoking at all hours of the day and night. We can’t even have the windows on that side of the apartment open anymore or our living room and spare room get full of their cigarette smoke. Unfortunately there’s nothing we can do. :/ 

Post # 7
56 posts
Worker bee

Definitely call the landlord. The dog and the pot are big issues. What if a police officer comes by and notices a smell of pot? This could cause problems. You knew about this and failed to tell the landlord, who might be pissed off about this. It’s your responsibility to inform the landlord of any illegal activities or breach of the lease. 

Post # 8
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would talk to them face to face about the smoke. Tell them it comes into your house and you do not like the smell. After a week, if they don’t stop, tell the landlord about it.

When the dog is whiny/barking, call your local police. Officers should come to your house to write a report and contact your landlord. Also, where does this dog do it’s business? I am assuming you must have dog waste on the property, something the landlord could easily address.


If you really do not want to get on your neighbors’ bad side (which is understandable), you could tell your landlord about what has been going on and have him send a letter to “All Tenants” about the cigarette butts and the noise complaints of a dog and reminding you all of the rules. Of course, you would know who he is referring to, but that way the neighbor would not know you were the one to tip him off.

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