(Closed) Annoying roommate issues- rant

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Time to move?

Post # 4
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the best way to deal with stuff like this is…to realize that everyone has different perspectives and different concepts of cleanliness.  To her, the situation may have been building and building and getting worse and worse.  

I had roommates onetime who were AWFUL.  I could tell you one hundred thousand things wrong with them.  However, I’m sure they could tell you one hundred thousand things wrong with me.  

They were extremely messy (it does not sound like you are THIS messy, but still!).  I used to clean up after them to make space for myself in the kitchen, but after a while I was completely fed up and would just move their stuff.  Like I would remove their dirty dishes from the sink and put them on the counter, away from where I was using space.  But I am sure they thought I was being unreasonable.  Do you understand what I’m saying??


Here is a picture of the kitchen….OMG.

Post # 5
46677 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 Other than keeping everything f***ing obsessively clean and putting EVERYTHING away, which I don’t always have time for

You know she is OCD and that the kitchen is an issue for her. I suggest a little give and take on both sides. It really doesn’t take any longer for you to put your non-perishables and clean dishes away, than it does to put them on the counter. I suggest you commit to doing this for her.
On her part, if something bothers her, she can move it, put it away, tidy it etc but NOT mention it to the other roommates.

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I am not the best person to rant to since I was the obsessively clean kitchen roommate.  The problem with a messy kitchen is that it is disgusting and unsanitary and can lead to bugs.  It is imo the most difficult room for roommates to deal with because  someone will be messy and someone will be clean and it will lead to arguments.  I got lucky (or not depending on how you look at it) in that my messy roommate never complained when I cleaned up the kitchen to my standards which happened at least two to three times a week.  I would put away his food items and load the dishwasher then unload it once the dishes were clean.

I understand her frustration, especially if she is hardly ever home because it probably feels to her like she is always cleaning when she is at home (hence why she is out so much.)  In your defense, you guys probably let the kitchen go a bit (not dirty but disorganized) while she’s out because you’re tired of dealing with her complulsive cleaning when she is home.

Have a house meeting and agree to ground rules about keeping the kitchen clean and what she can and cannot do in regards to cleaning up after you all when she wants the kitchen clean.  As for not putting everything away every time you’re in the kitchen, don’t take out more than you feel like cleaning up.  Make sure everyone has a cabinet and drawer they can just toss things in to get it off the counters and keep stuff off the counters.

Post # 8
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@beachbride1216:  +1

It’s very difficult to keep a disorganized, messy kitchen clean, because you can’t properly wipe down and sanitize counters, cooking surfaces, etc. So a dirty kitchen can lead to infestations and foodborne illness. I am not OCD by any means, but the kitchen is the one place I don’t think a mess should be tolerated. I understand that sometimes it’s hard to get motivated to clean up after yourself when you’re tired, but overall, you’re probably putting in more energy analyzing and being stressed about this situation than you would put in just cleaning up.

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