Post # 1
I sent out the invites for my sisters shower 4 weeks ago and her shower is in 1 week. Out of 60 invitations, I only got about 15 responses. I am now shaking people down for an answer, but have gotten about 15 “Maybe’s” What?? Is that normal?? How can I plan the food, drinks, chair rentals with 15 Maybe’s??
I’m afraid if I assume the “Maybe’s” are really “No’s” then they will all show up wanting to be fed! I have to order the food soon.. I don’t know what to do..
Post # 3
Let these “Maybes” know that you really need a yes or a no, that “Maybe” is not an option for RSVPs. Out of 60 people, you only have 15 responses? That is really rude of these people.
I think you should definately contact them and tell them to pick yes or no.
Post # 4
People are so rude. I just can’t believe it.
I don’t think it’s normal- what could be going on in their lives that none of them know what they’ll be doing in a week?!
If you can’t nail them down, can you alter your plans somewhat? Like have appetizers that are non-perishable (like in the freezer) you can whip up if extra people arrive? Or ask some friends to bring folding chairs just in case?
Post # 5
It sounds rude, but you’ll have to tell them that if they don’t know, that you’ll just have to consider their response a ‘no’ and you’ll see them at the wedding. Some people are just SO rude, we actually had to do that with some friends for the actual wedding, bc our count is due and they were hedging, saying ‘maybe’. It’s nothing personal but some people just dont’ understand that when you plan an event, there are things like a budget and a timeline. My sis went through the same thing for my shower, said it was really frustrating.
Post # 6
Yeah, I think you need to let the maybe’s know that this isn’t gonna work. You can’t possibly plan without knowing a solid number. There may be a few no show’s after all, things happen, but to have too little would be worse. I wonder why this always happens. How can so many people be so carefree/careless, whatever it may be?
Post # 7
SO RUDE. I don’t think people udnerstand until they try to plan something like this themselves.
Post # 8
I didn’t always understand the importance of RSVPs either…I’ve been guilty of being that person that you had to track down. But after doing that for our wedding, I will NEVER be that person again! I know get why people need to know if you plan on showing up or not…
With that being said, I would follow other’s advice and try for food that you can store or heat up in case of adjusting numbers the day of the party…