(Closed) Annoying when other women call you pet names?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
Hostess
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I guess I never mind it too much because I figure it’s better than one of the many terrible names women are known to call one another! 😉

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sea_Ashley:  I had a friend who was two years older then me in HS and she always would call me; pumpkin, sweetheart, sweetie, love, hunny. Barf. I dislike it very much. I told her just because I am younger then you you don’t have to mother me or what ever your trying to do.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sea_Ashley:  I used to call people this when I worked as a cashier because it was slightly easier to get their attention than “Hey you!” and I had no idea what their name was…. I didn’t like it, but it was more effective than a lot of other things I tried.

Post # 6
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ugh! At one store I shop at fairly regularly the owner (a lady I’d peg to be in her 40’s) calls me ‘boo’ in every.Single.sentence. it usually takes all my self control to hold back my aggravated laughter till I’m out the door.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I dont really mind either, like PP said there are worst things people can call one another….but it does make a bit uncomfortable when men call me “my love” … but whatever, they prob dont realize it either.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I like it.  I work with an older lady who always calls me sweetie.  I think it’s nice and well-intentioned.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I understand how this troubles people, but I have found that I actually LOVE being called pet names…by just about anybody, but especially by folks older than me…I mean, as long as it’s not in a condescending manner. I actually think I theoretically SHOULD be offended, but in reality it makes me feel warm and loved.  I do think, though, that you should feel free to correct somebody if you find it uncomfortable. Say, “please, call me by my name.” or something to that effect.

Post # 10
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I used to work with a woman who referred to me as, “Girl”. She was in her 60’s, I am in my 30’s. I quickly corrected this the next time she said it, by saying, “Actually, my name is _____ and that is what I prefer to be called.”

 

BOOM.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Sea_Ashley:  I sometimes like it. I think it’s nice since many women can be bitches haha.

What gets me is the condescending “AW HON.”

*shudder*

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Sea_Ashley:  I am SO guilty of this….and I don’t mean it in a condescending way at ALL!!  First, my Mom hails from the South…and that is just how they do it down there, Honey this and Sugar that….it’s hard to NOT do it after literally soaking in Southern Hospitality for your whole life…second…I am enormously tall…and it’s very seldom that I run across another woman that I can look in the eye, let alone hug without cranking down the rigging…so I feel….protective of most women as a rule, and I think they’re all really sweet and cute and that’s just how I am….I don’t do it to you anymore…I’m sorry

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hate it so much. I have always looked REALLY young though (I got carded going to a rated R movie last week. I’m 24) so I am pretty sensitive to it. It just feels really condescending! I don’t mind when as much when grandma-age ladies do it, though

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t mind it. It’s not ideal, but I appreciate that someone who would call me a pet name like that probably means well and has a positive opinion of me. I’m not going to start a battle to get every single person everywhere to recognize me as a strong educated grown woman, especially when most of these people have no bearing on my future, sometimes just thinking I’m a “sweetie” is ok by me. 

Post # 16
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1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

D: I always call other people hun and stuff, especially online or if trying to offer condolences. Feels like I’m being more friendly that way, never realised it might be annoying to somebody. Hopefully if that’s the case they’d let me know so I could respect their preferences. 

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