Post # 1
This is more a vent but I absolutely HATE it when other women call me honey, sweetie or other “endearing” pet names. I have a job where I talk on the phone quite a bit and I know I sound young, but this annoys me soo much!! Anyone else have to deal with this?
Post # 3
I guess I never mind it too much because I figure it’s better than one of the many terrible names women are known to call one another! 😉
Post # 4
@Sea_Ashley: I had a friend who was two years older then me in HS and she always would call me; pumpkin, sweetheart, sweetie, love, hunny. Barf. I dislike it very much. I told her just because I am younger then you you don’t have to mother me or what ever your trying to do.
Post # 5
@Sea_Ashley: I used to call people this when I worked as a cashier because it was slightly easier to get their attention than “Hey you!” and I had no idea what their name was…. I didn’t like it, but it was more effective than a lot of other things I tried.
Post # 6
Ugh! At one store I shop at fairly regularly the owner (a lady I’d peg to be in her 40’s) calls me ‘boo’ in every.Single.sentence. it usually takes all my self control to hold back my aggravated laughter till I’m out the door.
Post # 7
I dont really mind either, like PP said there are worst things people can call one another….but it does make a bit uncomfortable when men call me “my love” … but whatever, they prob dont realize it either.
Post # 8
I like it. I work with an older lady who always calls me sweetie. I think it’s nice and well-intentioned.
Post # 9
I understand how this troubles people, but I have found that I actually LOVE being called pet names…by just about anybody, but especially by folks older than me…I mean, as long as it’s not in a condescending manner. I actually think I theoretically SHOULD be offended, but in reality it makes me feel warm and loved. I do think, though, that you should feel free to correct somebody if you find it uncomfortable. Say, “please, call me by my name.” or something to that effect.
Post # 10
I used to work with a woman who referred to me as, “Girl”. She was in her 60’s, I am in my 30’s. I quickly corrected this the next time she said it, by saying, “Actually, my name is _____ and that is what I prefer to be called.”
Post # 11
@Sea_Ashley: I sometimes like it. I think it’s nice since many women can be bitches haha.
What gets me is the condescending “AW HON.”
Post # 12
@Sea_Ashley: I am SO guilty of this….and I don’t mean it in a condescending way at ALL!! First, my Mom hails from the South…and that is just how they do it down there, Honey this and Sugar that….it’s hard to NOT do it after literally soaking in Southern Hospitality for your whole life…second…I am enormously tall…and it’s very seldom that I run across another woman that I can look in the eye, let alone hug without cranking down the rigging…so I feel….protective of most women as a rule, and I think they’re all really sweet and cute and that’s just how I am….I don’t do it to you anymore…I’m sorry
Post # 13
I hate it so much. I have always looked REALLY young though (I got carded going to a rated R movie last week. I’m 24) so I am pretty sensitive to it. It just feels really condescending! I don’t mind when as much when grandma-age ladies do it, though
Post # 14
I don’t mind it. It’s not ideal, but I appreciate that someone who would call me a pet name like that probably means well and has a positive opinion of me. I’m not going to start a battle to get every single person everywhere to recognize me as a strong educated grown woman, especially when most of these people have no bearing on my future, sometimes just thinking I’m a “sweetie” is ok by me.
Post # 15
@figgnewton: Ugh so annoying! I had a friend YOUNGER than me who used to call me sweetie!
@MrsTVLover: That is nice, I guess elderly women would be an exception.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
D: I always call other people hun and stuff, especially online or if trying to offer condolences. Feels like I’m being more friendly that way, never realised it might be annoying to somebody. Hopefully if that’s the case they’d let me know so I could respect their preferences.