This wouldn’t fly with me…
It would be WAY BEYOND the Boundaries that Mr TTR & I have negotiated in our Relationship (something we worked out in the very very beginning… early dates, when we were still getting to know one another, and not yet “all in” so to speak)
Then again, we don’t entertain the idea of having opposite sex friends that we see one-on-one… all our opposite sex friends (single or not) see us as a couple… always as a couple
This eliminates any chance of anyone oversharing, flirting or becoming emotionally connected to an inappropriate extent
When it comes to our friends, unless they are same sex buddies… we only see them as a couple. So NEVER would I be entertaining any of Mr TTR’s pals without him around, and NEVER would he be seeing any of my GFs. And if there are other couples we socialize with, they come as a pair, unless we are BOTH home.
As for sleepovers… GOD NO
Never going to happen
The ONLY planned sleepovers with single people at our house Kids & Grandparents.
On the rare occasion that a single person has slept over, it is because they are too drunk to drive, and then BOTH of us are home the entire time they are here.
I get that not everyone has the same Relationship Boundaries as Mr TTR & I… but ours were easy to make because at our age we’ve seen lots of relationships crash & burn when people suddenly find themselves “too interested” in a friend vs their partner.
We look at our method as an INSURANCE that that won’t happen. Be it one of us getting too enamoured (less likely… but have seen it happen to other couples) or one of our friends crossing an inappropriate boundary (more likely)
Only you can work this out with Your Guy…
But sorry, NONE of what he has proposed would fly with me.
He is spending IMO too much time & energy on someone else (a woman) outside of the relationship that the two of you share. And sounds like he is also over sharing… and that is a HUGE RED FLAG in my book.
Hope this helps,