Tell him it isn’t HIM you don’t trust it is her.
You don’t know her.
And clearly if someone is willing to drive 3 Hours to visit one-on-one with a member of the opposite sex, they see a lot more potential to the relationship…
It is a fact… that more often than not there are people who don’t take NO… as a reason that the door to a relationship is shut
They are just waiting for the right opportunity to stick their toe in the open door, and push it open farther.
Not sure which of these two… HER or HIM is this person
But it certainly “smells” that way to me
Someone has bigger feelings here than they are admitting to
And at this point, I’m going to guess it is actually HER and not your Hubby
HER in so much as she came along to the Wedding (to size up the competition)
HER so much as she is willing to drive the 3 Hours
I am thinking that your poor Hubby doesn’t see the forest for the trees here…
He is being manipulated… and truly doesn’t have a clue that it is happening to him (hence why he says you are being ridiculous)*
She is using his good nature so that he is making bad choices (seriously a sleep over !!!)
SHE knows you’ll be at work. She knows the two of them will be alone. She’s hoping to “play pseudo girlfriend” with him, and have whatever crumbs are left over as it is better than nothing in her eyes when it comes to him
Trust me I have seen this before.
(And also why you’ll read posts here on WBee that refer to “skanky women”… this is one of them. His being married, makes him all the more attractive to her… he’s the one that got away)
Here is a link you might find interesting it is an Interview from Good Morning America with Steve Harvey, who has written several books on how men think (and don’t think) aimed at women… “Act Like a Lady ~ Think Like a Man” and “Straight Talk, No Chaser”
And his Interview of 3 Couples about Opposite Sex Friendships… I’d watch em, then share them with and discuss them with your Hubby
You can find other Steve Harvey videos on line, and his books are a good read too.
That is another BOUNDARY that Mr TTR & I have in our Relationship
NO EXES… they are exes for a reason. Time to move on past them. To not do so, just can evoke past feelings
(Lol, don’t believe this, look at the quirky stats where couples who have married & divorced and remarried, end up divorcing once more so they can remarry their previous spouce.)
You need to stand up for yourself… and your marriage.
Don’t be the pushover girl… or else you’ll be the Bee posting here in no time telling us “Well it happened”
Hope this helps,
PS… * He doesn’t believe you… he should test the woman… and ask her himself what her intentions are. “Sue I was just wondering, if I wasn’t married, if my dear wife wasn’t in the picture… would you and I date? Could you and I date. Would you be interested in me in that way?”
And then he’ll know, whether you have just cause to be PROTECTIVE of your relationship.
Keeping MISS MEGA CRUSH at bay.
Infact, I’d go so far as to ask him to text those EXACT same words so you can see the reply…