Post # 1
i love my friends and am really made up and happy for them and so happy for their good news. but i just don’t think i can be all happiness and smiles when all the wedding talk is going on. argghhh! sorry. i know 3 years is not that long in the great scheme of things.. i feel like such a brat. everyone around me is getting ngaged, married or having kids.. why not me?!! i don’t nag my boyfriend, i am just getting frustrated.
Post # 3
Believe me, you are not the only one. Almost all of my friends are engaged or already married. I’m getting so impatient. But, I know SO has a plan and that he is trying his hardest to surprise me, because that’s what he wants. He said I will have a ring by the end of the year, so I do know it’s coming.
Post # 4
Oh sooo been there. Of my friends from school we have been together the longest (6.5 years!) and will be the last to get engaged. I’ve got a friend who has got managed to have 2 engagements and a wedding in the time I’ve been with my SO. Sure you shouldn’t compare your relationship with everyone else, the grass always SEEMS greener etc etc but it sure is frustrating!! By the end of 2013 we will have attended 10 weddings (all my friends and ALL but 1 with shorter length relationships). The end is in sight for me, but the last few years have been quite difficult!
Post # 5
I hear you! SOs friend just got engaged a few days ago. They’ve been together less time than us and she’s younger. I was really upset about it. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me or something that he feels like he can take as much time as he needs. We’re going on 6 years now.
Post # 6
I hear you! I’ve seen 3 since Sunday! 2 out of the 3 have been together less than SO & I have….I know I know that shouldn’t have any relavance on your relationship, but sometimes I think, I’ve put in my time! ha. That sounds so lame! But after so many people getting engaged before you you start to wonder…what’s wrong with me?
Post # 7
I swear, I could have written the exact same post. My SO and I got into a small argument over how long I’ve been “waiting” after my good friend got engaged to his bf of 8 months. I too have been waiting over 3 years, and it’s getting harder and harder to bare. It’s hard to watch other relationships move forward as your own sits seemingly stagnant.
just keep breathing. We’ll all figure it out eventually!!
Post # 8
I’m at 5.5 years here (and we looked at rings 4 years ago), so I feel your pain. Someone close to us got engaged very recently and it took me by surprise. I must admit that when my bf told me, I didn’t react in the best way.
Post # 9
@LilMonkey: it’s only been 3years with my guy, but i am so sick of seeing people who have been together way less time getting engaged. And, people who are younger. I know I am being ungrateful – his sister waited almost twice as long as me, but it still sucks!!
Post # 10
he says he loves me and eants to marry in the future but dors not wamt to put a date on it e.g. in the next year, due to the fact that if what for what ever reason he can’t in that time frame then it would lead to disappointmen, stress and arguements (as i can see for some of you bees it has). i to often think – what is,wrong with me?