(Closed) Another bee with dress regret (shocking!) :)

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I just wanted to say you look absolutely gorgeous in your dress. It’s beyond flattering and I couldn’t imagine anything better. Honestly, you look like a stunning bride and you should! 

Post # 47
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4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I like your dress (in the first post). It’s beautiful and flattering.

Post # 48
Member
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University

kbam2016:  Ok, listen up here, Gorgeous.

1) The dress is amazeballs on you. Do NOT change it. That fabric is luscious. You look divine. You fell in love with it for a reason. As you should!

2) I remarried 2 years ago after losing my first husband to cancer after 10 years of marriage.  (Um, twinsies? Nevermind, that’s weird…) Wedding planning was different the second time around and IT’S OK. It’s still joyous and a celebration!  You found love TWICE in a lifetime? Girl, own it. And enjoy it.

3) Hands down, you’re a bride.  Be the bride.  Be HIS (your new husband’s) bride. Wear the veil.  Feel as radiant as you want to. Hell, throw on a tiara if you please.  

I hear you loud and clear….I seriously do….but feel confident in the man (men) you’ve chosen, be 100% HIS, and just relish this amazing time.  SO SO SO excited for you!!!

Post # 49
Hostess
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

kbam2016: NOT unflattering at all. Looks amazing on you. In fact there are not many of us who could get away with wearing a dress like that, but you can by far. You’re rocking it girl and BE proud! I love the detail and how elegant it is.

Post # 50
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

kbam2016:  the dress looks beautiful on you. If you want to wear a long veil – do it. 

Post # 51
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I understand exactly how you’re feeling (lost my first husband to divorce after 4 yrs dating and another 6 married).  I held back too, but did get a strapless lace dress, and I’m wishing I’d gone fancier.  If I were your size we could trade, lol (mine’s an allure too 😉

You look absolutely stunning in your dress.  I love it more than the other two pics you posted, and I think a long veil will be perfect !

Yes, it’s fine and appropriate for you to have those things. You’re the bride. You have permission to be brighter, fancier, more formal, and everything else than everyone else on that day.  Don’t doubt yourself one bit. 

Post # 54
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5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you look gorgeous!  I got married for the second time in my 40s so I know what you mean about “doing the bride thing” again.   I was not a widow though.

Wear what makes you happy.  Congratulations!

(and, yes, people are very honest here.  We would have told you if you looked ridiculous)   

Post # 56
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

That second dress is a bit blah and does nothing for you. The first original dress I had to pick my jaw up off the floor. It is amazing and I wish i’d had it for mine!! It’s just stunning! And yes you are too hard on yourself. Your a widow getting remarried you aren’t a 7 times divorced women having her 8th big white church wedding. No one is going to think you look too bridal! I will also say what my hairdresser told me and what I found to be true. You can love your dress more then anything and at some point you will see another dress that is even more perfect. Because new dresses and styles are always coming out. Your dress is amazeballs!

Post # 57
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You are absolutely beautiful in your dress. With a cathedral veil, omg you’ll be absolutely breathtaking! Don’t worry about anything being inappropriate! You are a bride, and it doesn’t matter if this is your 1st, 2nd, 5th or even 7th wedding, you deserve to wear a gorgeous dress and veil and feel like a bride!

All of the best on your wedding day and chapter 2!

Post # 58
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Temecula, California

kbam2016:  WOW!  I think it looks amazing on you!  It is VERY bridal so I don’t think you have anything to worry about.  Go with your heart.  If you don’t like it now, you probably won’t like it later.  If you DO love it then fantastic!  I wouldn’t worry about what others say about you or the dress.  It is your wedding.  Wear what you feel the most beautiful in.

Post # 59
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

kbam2016:  this dress is stunning on you – fab dress and great body, you have nothing to be insecure about – own this look! 

As for if it’s too formal for a daytime wedding – provided you aren’t having your reception at Burger King, it doesn’t really matter. My view is that this is the one occasion in your life where you can go all out, regardless of the time of day. 

For veils – you won’t know what you like until you try them on. I think a birdcage could look very chic, as would a blusher. 

I can’t imagine the emotions of planning a wedding as a widow, but please be kind to yourself – and here’s to the next phase of life! Good luck and keep us posted on what you decide to do! 

  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  MrsToBe123.
Post # 60
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4019 posts
Honey bee

Celebrate your new marriage with all your heart! Wear the dress that excites and inspires you as you make a brand new start (sorry…didn’t mean to get all poetic!)

You have a gorgeous slender figure, you can really “go to town” and wear anything. The dress you have bought, by the way, is just beautiful and you look super elegant in it.  But life is too short for dress regrets, or any other regrets ,so follow your heart on this one.

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