(Closed) Another bee with dress regret (shocking!) :)

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 61
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hi! What a tough thing to go through. I’m sure your feelings must be all over the place and so hard for most of us to really understand. But if I were a guest at your wedding I’d just be so thrilled for you to have found love again that what you wore would not cross my mind.
As it happens, your first dress is a total and absolute stunner and you’d be mad to change it. I like the second one you posted but in honesty I find it plainer and less wow. I think you deserve the wow of the first dress you posted. And you really do have the kind of figure that almost any dress would flatter. Do what’s right for you but I think the dress you bought with a veil is perfect. Wishing you well. X

Post # 62
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

kbam2016:  Pleeeaaase stop overthinking your wedding. Your circumstances are completely unfortunate and anyone in your life that would judge you for remarrying is delusional. 

Now as far as your dress – OMFG dress 1 looks SO beautiful on you. DO NOT go to a strapless, sweetheart anything. Please. And your venue? It is quite elegant and classy and I feel your dress matches it perfectly. BUT if you aren’t happy with your dress, then by all means go out and find something that you love. This is why after I bought my dress, I stopped looking. When I did start to question whether or not I got the right dress, all that went away during my next fitting. If you still get “that feeling” when you put on dress 1, then definitely stick with it.

Post # 63
3003 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

The dress you have definitely looks like it cost at least $1300! The fabrics are sumptupis and there’s a lot of beading and detailing. You look amazing in it!

The other dresses you posted are just okay. I think you should stick with the one you’ve chosen and get it fitted to you!

If you don’t feel like wearing a veil your second time (I didn’t even like it that much the first time but wore mine dutifully), you can wear a crystal headband or hairpiece.

Post # 64
2633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

kbam2016:  Omgoodness….that dress….I would wear it the first time! I love this one 

Post # 65
8988 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Both lovely dresses and you look great in both. I like the second elegant one better personally, as the other looks more  – as you say –  ‘evening’ but  if selling the first is too hard, don’t even start to put  yourself through  it .!

Re veil etc,  as a pp says , you don’t have to do this if it makes you feel  even a  a tad uncomfortable. A   flower  or pearl or crystal  headpiece would be lovely on your  beautiful hair .

Oh and  don’t add any crinoline effects  to either  dress , they are beautifully  balanced as they  are .

Post # 66
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Both dresses are absolutely gorgeous. I do agree that the dress is a bit evening-y for a daytime summer wedding, I think the runner-up dress has more of a daytime/summer look. But nobody at the wedding is going to be analyzing things like that–they will just pay attention to how gorgeous you are! And don’t worry about being too bridal, you should wear what makes you feel happy–your guests want you to feel happy too! If you love being in a veil, go for it.

If you do decide to switch http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com has helped a lot of brides sell dresses.

Good luck! I can’t imagine what an emotional rollercoaster this must be. I hope you can enjoy things and feel 100% confident in whatever you wear–if YOU love it, then it’s the perfect dress!


Post # 67
4243 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I love your original dress!!

Post # 68
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

kbam2016:  the dress is amazing. I feel it just needs a fitting. That being said, wear what makes YOU happy. 

And f the haters. If people wanna talk and make rude comments, they are only showing their character, not harming yours. Live life for you and enjoy every moment. 🙂 

Post # 69
301 posts
Helper bee

kbam2016:  my first thought was how stunning you look! But you should get whatever dress makes your heart sing.

Post # 70
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

The first dress is really beautiful and totally appropriate! I am sorry for the loss of your husband. Do not listen to any negativity about your upcoming marriage of dress. You look perfect in it 

Post # 71
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Leu gardens, orlando

Why don’t you take a picture of you in the 1st dress again but this time do your hair the way you might have it done, add a veil and some jewellery-seeing it “tarted up” to how you could be looking might help you.

Post # 72
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

kbam2016:  I’m so sorry to hear about your first husband. That is absolutely terrible!

The best advice I can give is to not care about what anyone thinks. You look stunning in that dress, and it is entirely appropriate. Do what makes you happy! 🙂

Post # 73
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

First of all, congratulations. I’m so sorry for your pain, but so thrilled for you during this beautiful, bittersweet time.

I understand how emotions can tend to flood everything around you – happy or sad. Nobody can tell you how to feel, but you should absolutely not feel guilty for finding happiness. It’s what your late husband, or anyone who loves you for that matter, would want for you. 

All that said, the dress you picked is absolutely beautiful, however, you’re the one who will be wearing it – so YOU need to feel beautiful and special in it. You have a lovely figure, so I get the feeling almost every dress you try on is going to look great – which can definitely make for some indecision! 

The back of the first dress is so gorgeous (I for one think the back of a dress is the most important part, but that’s just me!) and the second one is clean and classic but not nearly as special, in my opinion.

Like I said, it’s about what makes you feel beautiful and special on your day. Hugs to you <3


Post # 75
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You look very beautiful and the dress is not inappropriate at all. Congratulations, and enjoy your wedding! <3

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