Thank you everyone for all your support and kind words. My dad is on a business trip right now so after my revelation that I didn’t want to marry a superficial douchebag I went straight to my mom to talk about it. I thought she’d be really supportive and outraged on my behalf and that we’d tackle the breakup together as team, but it didn’t turn out to be that way.
While she sympathized, she basically said that I am not, under any circumstances, allowed to break up with him. She told me to think of my age, and that he was a nice, respectable young man. It was absolutely not mandatory for him to find me attractive.
She reminded me that I never once complained about how he treated me. She reminded me that not a month ago I had actually been complimenting him to her about what a good boyfriend he was. Well, that was before I knew he considered me the equivalent of a purse bought at the mall (ugh, I’ll never be able to see Chanel again without being furious). She said as long as he’s treating me well right now, that doesn’t matter. Which kind of makes sense… he’s been treating me perfectly fine until now! It wasn’t as if he suddenly turned physically or emotionally abusive.
And then… without me knowing, she called him over for dinner and drinks so we could all sit down and hash it out. I went to open the door at the sound of the doorbell and there he was.
My mom directly asked him about everything. And you know what he did? The asshole changed his story, saying that I had misunderstood, I was making a huge deal out of nothing. He said he never once said any of the stuff I was accusing him of. He loved me with all his heart (but not with his eyes, I suppose), he would be honored to be my husband, etc. He even profusely thanked my mom for giving birth to such a lovely woman who would be his wife. He somehow made it out so that I simply got into a jealous hissy fit over a misunderstanding. All that lying! And my mom accepted all his lies!
Oh my goodness, I’m starting to cry again I’m so frustrated. Anyway, at the end, my mom and him got tipsy and kind of giggly together and both of them concluded that the matter was over.
He went home and later texted me: “Let’s forget everything that happened and was said that day. And in the future, I think it would be smart if you talked to me about things before you go to your parents. Good night.”
My mom just told me the same thing as she was getting ready for bed: to drop the subject and forget about it. And that I am not to tell my dad.
I’m so happy the two of them can put this issue behind them so easily like it’s absolutely nothing. Is this really nothing?
I’m so tired right now. So amazingly tired. I don’t know what to do anymore… I guess I could use some advice. Is this something I need to get over? If my dad feels the same way mom does… this is going to be a really exhausting battle.
Again… thank you for the support. It means so much especially since I’m not getting it from the one person who I thought would be on my side.