(Closed) Another bridesmaid not paying for dress

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would have never given her the money.  Did she give you a timeline as to when she would pay you back?  Your wedding is coming up pretty soon so I think it is reasonable to ask for the money since you will be paying a lot of money in the next couple weeks.  You could always ask your fiance to handle it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s his family – I’d let him handle it. And consider it a fairly inexpensive lesson in not lending money to family.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think if she says she was going to pay you back, then it would not hurt to let your Fiance bring it up.  I hope you get it back!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@emricmacy:  You never know how much money someone has or what their financial life looks like. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@emricmacy:  A wise person once told me that, when considering whether or not to loan anyone money, you should ask yourself if you are prepared to never see that money again.  I had a lession like that once, it cost me almost a grand.  If your Fiance wants to let it go, maybe you should.  But, at the same time, I don’t see what it would hurt for him to call his bro and ask about it.  All he has to do is say “Hey we need to pay the balance for our (insert vendor here) and every little bit helps.  Are you guys at a point where we could get the money we loaned you back?”  If that’s gonna cause problems then let it be.  Men can be so stubborn!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@emricmacy:  Her being a ‘pain’ or not during planning  is irrelevant,  I dislike that you throw that at the end to try to garner more agreement that she’s horrible or something.

You never should haveagreed to it without discussing with your fi. Now you have to tell him what’s up and get his opinion since its his  family.  Demanding the money could cause a rift in that family,  not getting the money seems to be making you resent her.

Post # 15
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Newbee

I have a similar problem I posted about earlier.

It sucks. Everyones tellin me to let it go, which is really hard, but I guess it’s all we can do.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@emricmacy:  Why would asking about a loan she said she’d repay make you look bad to your FI?

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