Post # 1
Bees I need your help! My mother (amazing woman that she is) thinks we need to add a response card for the reception itself. We are having an intimate (200 instead of 300 guests *sigh* lol) reception and she feels that not everyone who is invited to the reception will come even if they come to the wedding and thus we should have a separate card to rsvp for the reception. Thoughts? Ideas? Anything? Please give me your input!!!
Post # 3
What reception information is on your wedding invitation? Does it say “Celebration with dinner and dancing to follow” or something like that?
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Does your invitation say reception to follow, or does your reply card have information about a meal choice? As long as your reception rsvps are correct, I wouldn’t worry if there are people who just come to the ceremony.
Post # 5
Can you do a check box on your rsvp card. Check here for ceremony ponly, check here for reception only, check here for ceremony and reception?
Post # 6
@Pearberry we are not including reception info on our invitation because we are having a more intimate reception. We are including a separate card for those who are invited to the reception with the information needed.
@rebwana and @shakira0202 because we are having a smaller reception with buffet style food we are not including any info about it on our rsvps. thus one of the reasons my mom wants to add the extra card because she is worried about final head count for catering and such. I am not overly worried about it and I have hardly ever seen someone turn down coming to a wedding reception even if they only came for dinner.
Post # 7
Just making sure I’m getting this right: you’re sending out 2 separate invitations (one for the ceremony and one for the reception), but only the ceremony invitation has a RSVP card? Is that right? Will they be at the same location?
I think headcounts are most important when you’re dealing with food and seating, which usually applies more for the reception. Since you’re sending out two invitations, I would include RSVP cards for the reception because if guests do/don’t show up, it can really affect your rental counts, seating arrangements, catering headcounts, etc. Also, I would make sure that the guests only invited to the ceremony are aware that they are not joining the reception on the invitation so there is no confusion or hurt feelings. A simple note on the invitation such as “Due to the intimate nature of our venue, the reception is by invite only. Thank you for celebrating our special day with us.”
Post # 8
@tokyohamster yes we are sending wedding invites to everyone but reception info to only those invited to the reception. the ceremony and reception are not at the same location.
I like the idea of adding a line to clarify that we are having an intimate reception instead of just leaving those not invited in the dark. thanks for the input!
Post # 9
i’m sorry but the reason why you are having a tough time is because this is not typically done. small ceremony and larger reception but not large ceremony and small reception. i know this is not your question so to answer your question. if i was planning on inviting guests to ceremony only or to a tiered reception i would not have rsvp card for those invited to the ceremony only and only have the rsvp card for those who you are inviting to both.
A. Invited to Ceremony Only
– Direction Card
B. Invited to Both
– Direction Card
– Reception Card
– RSVP Card (for reception)
if you really want a count for the ceremony then do an RSVP card for the ceremony only invites and then another card for those invited to both but have the rsvp for both the ceremony and reception on one card instead of on separate cards.