Post # 1
Has anyone else heard this from vendors ad nauseum? I swear I hear it like clockwork if I take a few days to respond to a particular vendor. My fiance is convinced it’s the standard tactic to get you to hurry up and book. We didn’t take the chance with our venue and put the deposit down right away, but I’m having a hard time believing that there’s been so many coincidental next day inquiries for potential makeup artists, photographers (there are hundreds in my non-urban area. probably at a 10-20 photographers to 1 wedding venue ratio).
I understand the enthusiasm to book a job, but my BS radar is getting overwhelmed.
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I don’t think I heard that from any of my venders.
Post # 3
I didn’t hear it because my day was kind of in the off season (Oct 22.) I also went to a meeting at a very popular venue my friend is using (I’m her planner) and they didn’t say it to her either. They did put her down as a tentative booking, and would inform her if anyone else was interested.
Post # 4
it depends, it can be a tactic but then again, there are some dates that are THAT popular. (disclaimer, i’m a wedding vendor). we booked up august ’15 like crazy and everyone is asking for the same 3 dates, meanwhile, no one is asking for june ’15… it depends on if you’re willing to take the risk or not…
Post # 5
I heard it alot for our October 31st wedding.. not so much from the venues, but I heard it a lot from DJs. Almost each one I contacted. 32 days from our wedding and one of the djs is still spamming my email about “other couples are booking this date, act now!”.
Post # 6
I dunno, our photog was actually a really good friend (so he’d have no reason to lie to us), and he got 9 enquiries for our date (and 3 came within a week of us booking). And we were living in a huge city at the time. Yeah, there might be a lot of options, but that doesn’t mean they’re all good!
Post # 7
If you want a vendor then book them. These wedding professionals aren’t going to wait around for you to decide if they have someone else interested in their services. Their top priority is booking their dates so they can make their money. Some vendors may be bullshitting to get the client to shit or get off the pot but they have te luxury of doing that when they’re the ones providing the service.
Post # 8
ilovebacon: Of course I’ll book a vendor if I want them and of course I wouldn’t expect a vendor to wait, but I’m not ready to give a photographer a $2000 without asking questions, checking references, etc. and I’m not going to sign a contract for a MUA without seeing some of her work. Generally I’d send an inquiry for information, get the information immediately, and within a few days I’d get the followup “someone else is interested! I can send you the contract today!” I’d rather risk losing a vendor than be pressured into a decision and find out later that they don’t get photos to clients for 6 months.
Post # 9
We didn’t hear it once. Every vendor we had an appointment with put some kind of courtesy hold on our day to give us time to think and either make a deposit or say ‘no thanks’.
Post # 10
I was the person interested in the venue/DJ/photographer and hairstylist 3 times that got booked the day prior to me calling, or they had to call and check with the other couple. I had one venue tell me that they didn’t think they had the day booked because one bride hadn’t called them back. They just wanted to check with her one more time. Turns out, she had mailed the check and contract, they just didn’t have it yet. I had a DJ tell me if I would have called the day before, he wouldn’t have been booked. I had three photographers tell me on the same day they were booked, too bad I didn’t call one week in advance. And I had a race with another girl to get the hairstylest I want. They couldn’t remember which of us contacted them first, so it was first call back got the appointment.
Post # 11
Misswhowedding: Crazy! I had none of those issues. But, my wedding is in January haha.
seeker: I guess it really does depend when your wedding is. Mines in January and I haven’t had that line, but something I find equally annoying is people not taking us seriously when we tried to book in advance. I called some vendors in the spring and was straight up told to call again in the fall, they were too busy with summer weddings. Rude, they could have answered a couple simple questions.
Anywho, I guess if your wedding is during the ‘busy season’, especially the summer, I could see vendors booking up really fast.
Post # 12
jenilynevette: This is what I’m talking about. There was a photographer who did the same. She’d tell me another couple was interested and I’d tell her that I needed to see a full shoot before I could commit (she had a very small, but gorgeous portfolio) and I’d hear nothing for a few weeks until I received the same email about another couple being interested.
Post # 13
seeker: actually its both ways, yes they want you to clsoe, but also in reality wedidng stuff should be done wayyyyyy in advance so they may be trying to help you keep your dates/ schedule you need.
I actually lost my first date because it got snagged. And I took someone else’s perference, especially if its venues!
Post # 14
seeker: Yep. We heard it in January. Really, another couple is interested in our exact vendor, 13 months out for a Sunday wedding in the winter? Really?
I don’t deal well with that kind of stuff. It was total BS. So we told the vendor to go ahead and book the other couple.
A month later the vendor called us back and negotiated a discount so we’d book them. I wanted to ask what happened to the fictious couple. I didn’t.
Post # 15
seeker: This just happened to me when I called the venue we want yesterday. There is a couple going in to look at the venue this weekend prospectively for the date we want, so they have it temporarily reserved for them. So I’m sure that we will be that “other couple” when they go in on Sunday. Grrr…. I want them to hate the venue!