Post # 1
Long story short:
I’ve been TTC for 7 months.
In that time I have had 2 complete cycles, currently on my 3rd (CD 68).
I went to one doctor at 6 months, who said they wouldn’t look into me having PCOS or any fertility treatment until 1 year. I disagreed with this, and went to a new OB/GYN who said she would look into PCOS and we would go from there.
My blood levels were normal (given, they weren’t taken on CD3, but on CD40-something..so not sure how much it really told us) But my LH is 3x higher than my FSH- an indicator of PCOS. (Testosterone, prolactin, DHEA, progesterone were all normal levels.) and an US showed cystic ovaries. The consulting dr. on the US said that my ovaries were consistant with someone with PCOS.
My new doctor still will not go any futher until we have been trying for a year. I UNDERSTAND that 1 year is standard. And if I were ovulating 1/month or close to that I’d be FINE with it. But I am not, and I’d rather get this taken care of now than in several months. I am not 30 or older, and she said that is the only way she’d push up looking into other options or treatment.
I made ANOTHER appointment, at my old clinic with a new doctor yet again. But I’m starting to think that she’ll just tell me the same thing. Am I completely wrong here and just don’t see it??
Any personal stories would be helpful..advice..??
I just want to ovulate 🙁
Post # 3
@MissLunchbox: I am not TTC but I am also under 30. I think with all the doctors appointments, etc, you may be stressing yourself out and that might be part of the no ovulating bit! I know no one (me included) ever wants to hear “just relax!” but I know how big of a factor stress can be when it comes to ovulation.
Post # 4
@MissLunchbox: PUSH for what you want!! I hate when doctor’s go by standard protocol “just because”. It’s not fair. I was ignored for YEARS when trying to be diagnosed with stomach issues because I was young and otherwise healthy so I got stuck with “you have IBS, relax, eat healthier”. I was FINALLY diagnosed in 2008 with CROHN’S disease! That’s no joke!! A simple colonoscopy years earlier could’ve detected it and I could’ve been treating it so much sooner. Do whatever you have to do, find a doctor that will proceed with treatment. How dare this doctor essentially say that it looks like PCOS and do NOTHING about it?! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find a doctor that will take care of you soon!!
Post # 5
If you are really really adamant about it… can’t you just tell the new doctor you have been trying for over a year?
Post # 6
Wow. That is SUCH BS that the doctors won’t look to see if something is wrong with you until 1+years. That’s horrible. Especially for conditions that can lead to real infertility like that (my SIL is currently struggling with it) I just don’t understand how that’s ethical.
Post # 7
@love108: I definitely think stress doesn’t help, but there have been several months where I have been more relaxed and still haven’t ovulated. This is a medical condition just as much as it is mental, unfortunately 🙁
@jny1179: Thanks for the boost of confidence! It really is awful, and age has a huge part of it. Many doctors take the “rule” and never look at the exceptions..I guess I don’t want to piss them off and tell them I don’t agree with them- even if I do they don’t HAVE to treat me. SO FRUSTRATING. On to doctor 3..
@abc123joanna: I COULD, but with the 1st doctor I was honest because I didn’t think it would be an issue, and they sent all my info over to the 2nd doctor so I didn’t think lying would be a good idea. With this next doctor…it’s at my old clinic- I know it’s in my chart notes. I could always round up and say “almost a year”… 🙂
@crayfish: I’m glad I’m not crazy. I just don’t know what else to do. I can’t force them to treat me and I don’t want that kind of relationship with my doctor any way. Hopefully this new one has answers.
I honestly feel “discriminated” against since I’m under 30. They both told me “You have time, we wouldn’t rush anything unless you were 30 or over”…well people with PCOS typically have their fertility declining much more rapidly…so by the time I’m 30 it would similar fertility-wise to a 40 year old. So why can’t we even LOOK into some options..?
Post # 8
@MissLunchbox: I don’t know how good your insurance is, but if you can, I’d probably just head right over to a reproductive endocrinologist. If you have an HMO or something and you must have a referal for a specialist, I’d switch to a new GP, honestly. I’m no doctor, but I doubt a 68 day cycle could be considered normal. If they found an indicator of PCOS, I don’t understand why they aren’t treating it. Good luck!
ETA: I didn’t originally realize that you are seeing a new doctor this time. That’s great – you are always entitled to another opinion. Some doctors are too arrogant for their own good! Hopefully this one will work out 🙂
Post # 9
@love108: Your “advice” has no scientific foundation. Worrying will not keep a woman from ovulating the way the OP is describing.
If I were you I’d go with @abc123joanna:‘s advice & lie about how long you’ve been TTC. It’ll help them get moving towards a solution.
Post # 10
You need to see a reproductive endocrinologist, not an Ob/gyn. Call around to some RE and tell them, they will see you now. Mine was like we do blood draws after 4 months of issues. The one year thing is a myth. Gyns really don’t deal with the hormones and the nitty gritty.
Post # 11
@MissLunchbox: Totally not wrong to continue to push for what you want. I similarly have PCOS and don’t ovulate with any regularity. I am over 30 (I’m 31) but I was put on clomid after 7 or so months since it was clear my body wasn’t ovulating. I think the 1 year rule shouldn’t be the standard for every single case and you should continue to push your doctor or try to find another one – though I understand the pain since this is your second doctor. I also second the comments to look into an RE if that’s a possibility for you. Good luck!!
Post # 12
I would just get a new doctor and tell them you’ve been trying for one year.
Post # 13
I can’t tell you how much better this makes me feel. After TWO doctors telling me I have to wait I was beginning to think maybe I was just nuts. We want this so, so badly. I just want a SHOT to conceive. I stare longingly at OPK’s as if they are PG tests…
Hopefully this new doctor will give us a chance. Checking insurance now for RE…thanks for the advice @Macintosh: I hadn’t considered that as an option. Hopefully there’s some covered in this area!
Post # 14
yeah, I would definitely go see another doctor. TTC or not, figuring out whether you have PCOS is really important! my dad has a saying for situations like these– “the squeaky wheel gets the grease.” so go forth and squeak 😉 you are perfectly justified in looking for a new doctor who takes your concerns seriously and makes you feel comfortable!
Post # 15
@MissLunchbox: I doubt you want to hear this, but you are not the expert. Two doctors have said the same thing, so maybe you should listen to them. Why put your body through something you may not need? I think it today’s culture of instant gratification it is hard to be told to wait, but sometimes waiting is the smartest choice.
Post # 16
@FLBlonde93: Originally that was my thoughts on the matter as well, but I know I had issues with long periods before TTC as well. I just never cared to look into it because I didn’t want a child. My body has proven it will not ovulate on it’s own, so even if it is looking into natural ways to boost my ability to produce a mature egg- I am up for it. I also think doctors get used to telling people the same thing over and over. One year is a normal wait time before checking for infertility in a normal, healthy woman. My reproductive system is not “healthy” or it would be doing what it is there for. I honestly don’t see what the next 4.5 months will do as far as “waiting” goes- besides cause more stress, and heartache. Lesser of two evils, I suppose. If this next doctor feels the same, and the specialist does too- I obviously will have no choice. But I also know that “professionals” told my mother that she was “too young” to need a colonoscopy and she ended up dying at 50 from stage 4 colon cancer..so I take everything with a grain of salt.