Post # 1
I feel like these threads pop up a million times a day, so I’m really sorry to contribute.
Ever since new year’s day, I’ve been kind of freaking out that our wedding is this year. Increasingly, people have asked about my dress—What it looks like, when I’m getting it fitted, where I bought it, etc.
When I bought the dress, I could hardly try it on because the sample was so small. The first time the consultant tried, we couldn’t get it on. She tried a second time…I guess because she knew I really liked it. She managed to get it on the second time. I sort of feel like I committed to it in a state of asphyxiation. I could hardly breathe in the thing.
My mom said to buy it because it was the dress, but I can never tell if she’s being genuine or if she was just tired of looking. Everyone I took dress shopping was almost TOO nice — no one had that critical opinion about anything that I really needed.
Did anyone else buy a dress even when the sample was way too small? And I mean WAY too small? I’m having a hard tme envisioning how the dress will look on me and I’m feeling increasingly stressed out about it. Why is it only the dress that people want to know about? I could talk about our invitations, menu, and band all day long. But the dress? Yikes. I’m starting to worry I put too little effort into the dress when I put so much effort into everything else.
Does anyone else feel this way? Ugh.
Post # 2
What dress is it? Just out of curiosity
Post # 3
Tried my dress on in a size 18 bought an 8 so i am still clueless as to what it will look like. I am hoping it looks good. Mine is plaine satin and has a belt but because it was such a big size, the consultant had to really pin it together so it looked as my torso was really long. I feel your pain but im just like eh ill get it when i get it and if it don’t look good ill figure something else out.
Post # 4
My dress is a label size 10. I managed to squeeze my bubble butt into a sample size 4 (which pretty much defies science), so yes, I ended up buying a dress that was way too small when I tried it on and I couldn’t be happier.
Here is me in the sample:
Here is my actual dress (size 10)
Let’s face it, there is and always has been a lot of emphasis on the dress. It’s the most photographed piece of clothing you’ll ever wear. I think the fascination stems from the old school of thought that it’s the “bride’s day” and all focus is on her. I don’t buy into that. However, I think this mentality is starting to shift as you see more and more couples planning weddings together rather than just the bride.
Post # 5
I’m actually feeling a bit of dress regret at the moment as well. There’s a dress out there that I REALLY want to try on, but I don’t want to make myself freak out even more. If I end up liking that one, there is one on a pre-owned wedding dress site, and it would work out that I could just cancel my current dress order and still have spent less than if I kept my current dress. I’m so torn if I should try it on, but it seems to be everything I wanted instead of the dress I put a deposit on. Then again, one dress I thought I would LOVE I ended up hating on me. ARGH I feel your pain. Most of the ones I really liked I couldn’t even try on because of my size (14/16) which is frustrating in itself.
Post # 6
I was actually really nervous about the exact same thing – that none of the samples would fit and I’d have to “envision” what the dress would look like as they held it up to me. Luckily, the store I went in to had a variety of sample sizes for different dresses and I didn’t even bother trying on ones lower than a certain size. The sample I tried on was 4 sizes too small, the back didn’t meet so they used a panel to fill in the blanks, BUT it was a ballgown, so it didn’t really matter below the waist.
Everyone asks about the dress because it’s the biggest deal, detail wise. It’s iconic.
Post # 7
People ask about the dress because it’s fun and easy to relate to (as opposed to asking about the invitations or photographers.) don’t worry people don’t really care! No one will care about your dress as much as you do so what really matters is if you like it. Show us a picture!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it until your dress comes in in your size. My dress sample was about 5 sizes too big. On a strapless dress you could just clip it and see what it would be like, but my dress had straps and a large keyhole back. There was no way to clip it in the back since it was essentially backless. It looked horrible and matronly on me, but I was still drawn to the dress, loved the way it looked on the model, and could imagine what it would look like on me when I had the sample on me. But during the long wait for the dress, I definitely freaked out. It is so crazy that the most important and expensive dress you will ever buy and you just have to imagine that it fits you. It ended up looking absolutely perfect, and was my gorgeous perfect dress. I really would just try to forget about the dress until it comes it- I know it is easier said than done, but worrying is only self-destructive.
Post # 10
It’s the Pronovias Pergola. I didn’t even know that it was an older dress from their line. I was at the store in NYC and I told them all of the things I had really liked when trying on dresses, and she pulled the Pergola. I liked it even on the hanger!
Haha I wish I had that laid back feeling! I think I did for awhile, but as the date draws closer I have just felt increasing anxiety over the entire thing. I’m sure you will look beautiful! Post when you have the dress 🙂
Holy moly you look AMAZING in that dress! And I so understand. I honestly don’t know how my consultant got that dress over my chest. My boobs are seriously so big that they took up the ENTIRE torso of the dress. I have no idea what it will really look like because seriously, it looks like an empire waist on me. Not to mention that we couldn’t even pull all of the inner layers down so some are just wrapped around my stomach 🙁
Ugh, I so understand where you’re coming from. I’m an even bigger size than that and my chest is disproportionately large. I had a hard time trying on dresses too 🙁 I so get the feeling of wanting another and not even knowing how it will look. ACK! What dress did you end up ordering?
I still hate that everyone asks about it! It was the last thing I did and it is what I am least excited about! When I went to try on dresses I had an okay time…but the dress I bought was definitely the smallest sample that fit on my body. No where else did I try on something that was that out of whack. It seriously looks disproportionate.
Maybe that’s the problem…I didn’t really care much about the dress because to me it was so inconsequential to whether or not my guests would have a good time! I WISH people asked me about invitations LOL. I’ll see if I can blur out my face in the photo but honestly I’m so heistant to post it because it just does not fit at all.
Ugh thank you for this. I feel so matronly in my dress, too! Kind of like a doiley. I was doing okay for awhile but once the new year hit, I’ve been freaking out a bit and people have been bringing it up more and more.
Thanks y’all. This is seriously tough. Everytime I look at the photos I just feel sick! Seriously, my chest takes up the ENTIRE bodice in the sample, there’s excess fabric wrapped around my stomach, and because the dress had to stay wide open in the back, all of the fabric is gathered around the front making it look like curtains 🙁 YIKES!
Post # 11
As you can probably all see, my chest is so big that it takes up the whole darn bodice of the sample dress 🙁 Like, it’s outta control. Plus, the extra fabric layers we couldn’t pull down are all bunched around my stomach. To make matters worse, the dress is totally open in the back so the fabric is all bunched up like a curtain. I feel like a doiley. This is how the dress is supposed to fit proportionally. You will notice the longer bodice and the fact that the dress doesn’t look so bunchy:
And here it is looking like a hot mess on me 🙁 I seriously think I picked the wrong dress. I just can’t imagine how this will look when it isn’t 12 sizes too small 🙁
Post # 12
I’ve put the deposit down on Sophia Tolli Elsa, but I’ve lately been drooling over Sophia Tolli Panem. My mom, Future Mother-In-Law, MoH all saw the one I put the deposit on and agreed it was the best I had tried on, but the Panem was really the shape I was going for the whole time, even though it’s similar to Elsa… Without being the size I’m hoping to be by the time my wedding rolls around (if I ever get around to STOP eating from this holiday season lol), it’s hard for me imagine in my head. Blah.
ETA: I was seriously trying to be so careful and trying on a bunch of things before I pulled the trigger. Oops. I never thought I’d be one to want a second dress instead and regret the first one before I even paid the darn thing off yet.
Post # 13
Thank you so much! I Just wanted to be able to show you the difference between the two and that the right size makes such a difference.
Did she have you try on a larger sample of a different dress with a similar shape? Part of the reason why I felt secure ordering my dress even though the sample was so small was because I had tried on other dresses with the same silhouette, so I could envision how it would look. That is a beautiful dress and I honestly think it will look fantastic on you in your proper size, but perhaps it would help soothe your mind if you tried on a larger sample of the same silhouette. Also, my sister had the same problem of being “well endowed in the chestal region” when she was trying on her wedding dresses. She had to order her dress two sizes larger than her waist and hips measured. A really good bustier didn’t hurt, either!
Post # 14
We look to be similar in size/shape/maybe even height!, and I wore Enzoani Grace, which if you google it is surprisingly similar to yours. I felt beautiful in it, and I think it’s a lovely dress you will be very happy with. It is very romantic looking, not matronly! Wait till it gets in before you change your mind. It’s a great dress!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm
I think the dress looks better on you than on the model. It doesn’t seem to fit her at all and the bodice looks much too long on her. It looks like a bit of an empire waist dress on you but I think it’s super flattering. When are you supposed to get your dress in? I think you’ll feel a lot better once you get to try it on in your size and (hopefully) fall back in love with it again. It’s a very pretty dress.