(Closed) Another exchange student question – What would YOU do?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: New Exchange Student, Old Exchange Student or TWO Students?
    Everything As-Is: Keep the current student until June and deal with the surrounding issues. : (6 votes)
    11 %
    Add the second student, remain firm in the rules of the house, be prepared to enforce them. : (34 votes)
    60 %
    Replace the current student with a new student and give it another chance. : (14 votes)
    25 %
    Other - Explain Below : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Part of me says to just keep your current student, and end things in June as planned.

    But the other part of me would really want the money.  LOL. 

    Post # 4
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you can handle it, why not have both?

    Post # 5
    1954 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Maybe having the 2nd student (of the same nationality and gender) would help your first student adjust a bit more? Assuming you have room for both of them, I can’t see the situation getting any worse by adding another student, but it could probably get a lot better.  Alternatively, I’d replace the student. You have certainly given him more than a fair shake at making the arrangement work.

    Post # 7
    755 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Wow, I say get both! But the money is what is deciding for me haha.

    How is the situation with the old one?

    Good luck!

    Post # 9
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted Other.

    I would replace the current student (you have given him way more than enough chances and he doesn’t deserve your generosity, kindness, and welcoming home any longer).  Then I would get TWO new students in March for the new semester.  So you still get the additional income but can get rid of the student that doesn’t respect you and isn’t thankful for the kindness and welcome you’ve shown him.

    Post # 11
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Mrs.KMM:  This is a great idea.

    I agree with a lot of other commenters that it seems like you’ve put forth every effort for this guy and he is just spoiled and ungrateful.

    Post # 12
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @Mrs.KMM: Oooh! I didn’t think of this, but I like it as an option.

    I think having two students might be good, whether one of them is this current guy or not. If he’s afraid of controntation or whatever, it might help to have two of them so that they can help each other communicate with you, you know?

    Question: How long will the new students be staying? Will you ask them to leave in June, even if they’re staying to study longer, or will you consider keeping them/one on past then, even with TTC?

    Post # 14
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I like the idea of getting 2 new students.  Maybe it will be a completely new situation and could it really be any worse then who you have now?

    Post # 15
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @christalynn11: okay, that makes sense. If you’ve got a year+ to host, I think it’d be a great idea! Two can’t be much more work than one, if they’re as indepedent as this guy sounds.

    Post # 16
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011


    This is a great idea. My concern with keeping the 1st student and taking on a 2nd, if they’re both the same gender and same nationality, is that the new student would learn from the old one that this behavior is normal/acceptable. Then you’d have two PITAs under your roof rather than one, which would probably not be worth any amount of money.

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