(Closed) Another Facebook Status Question…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it wrong/bad/mean/etc. to post FB statuses about your wedding?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    18 %
    No : (64 votes)
    74 %
    I'll explain below... : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t necessarily think it’s mean.  I occasionally post updates, but never anything specific or daily updates in your face sort of stuff.  Actually all the posts that I’ve alluded to my wedding have been deleted b/c I like to delete old posts.

    Post # 4
    Member
    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’m going with no. Because I don’t know how everyone else does fb… but I have my friends, my family, and then there are the people I went to school with, or people I kinda know..coworkers…and if i had to invite everyone who I was friends with on fb I couldn’t afford it.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No. I think it’s unrealistic to expect that people care that much that they’d be offended if you posted about something as big as a wedding. Every day might not be kind (or appealing), but to me, it’s no big deal. How many people talk about their wedding in everyday life with people they’re not inviting? I have, not because I brought it up necessarily, but because it came up. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    It’s not mean. I have tons of Facebook friends that won’t be invited.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @JenniMichele: I probably should have picked “I’ll explain below” instead of yes b/c I don’t think it’s mean exactly. However, I do think it’s asking for trouble…especially if you have FB friends that you won’t be inviting. You will probably get a lot of questions about when people can expect their invitations. Pretty awkward if you are not inviting them.

    Post # 8
    Member
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t think it’s mean, but I do roll my eyes at people who post wedding updates all the time.

    Post # 9
    Member
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would say no, and I post. I don’t get too specific with anything, just a generic “we booked the caterer” or something equally as exciting to me. I have a mix of close friends on there and just people I know, and I would never think that my best friend from high school’s brother would think that he would be invited.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it depends on the post. IF you are posting stuff like “Ceremony is at this place reception at this time to follow” and stuff like specific details, then I think it is unnecessary and will probably make some people upset…especially if there are friends on FB of yours that are not invited and thought they would be or would like to be etc. However, if you are posting something like “going dress shopping!” or “2 weeks to go!” then I dont think its rude at all!

    Post # 11
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I actually stopped posting wedding stuff on FB, after getting a couple Bridezilla comments… Grrr. !! And Fiance keeps pointing out that I’m the one trying to shrink the guest list, so it’s prob not best to throw too much info out there… I dunno. Strange world we’re in!

    Post # 12
    Member
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i think it can be good or bad – if all you post about is your wedding and all your details and how awesome its gonna be, yeah not great when people who read your stuff daily wont be invited (and im not talking about that long lost HS friend im talking about a person you work with or someone you see on a daily basis) or if you are posting stuff to attract attention or comments. (i posted about this type of status earlier….)

    I think the OCCASIONAL status is fine, but keep it to a minimum – remember no one cares about your wedding like you do. after the initial couple weeks of “eeeeee! im engaged!!!” leave your venting to weddingbee and the ladies and leave FB out of it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    No, not mean. But I think you should be selective about what you post. I don’t post anything specific about our ceremony or reception because I wouldn’t want people that aren’t invited to feel bad. I also think it’s annoying when the only thing that someone posts about is their wedding. But the occassional post is just fine.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I agree with @JamaicaBride – it’s not mean, but it could cause confusion among some people on whether they are invited. Of course, an occasional reference isn’t bad – found my dress!, two weeks to go! – but keep the details out of your posts.

    Consider this, though: Just this week, I figured out how to create a “secret” group on Facebook. (Seriously, you can choose between public, private and secret, which means no one even knows the group exists except the members.) So I created a “secret” Wedding group and added all of my Facebook friends who will be invited. Now I can post freely about wedding related stuff just to the people who care. (Still, you need to be careful not to overdo it!)

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think it depends on the way you do it and the frequency. I think the only things I’ve posted about the wedding are 1) when we got engaged and 2) when we went to do e-pics. Other than that I don’t really know why I would post anything else. I’m sure as it gets closer I’ll post a few things.

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