Post # 1
I know im being silly, but it just seems like all my friends are getting engaged at the moment! Many of them have also been dating for less than me and the man! I am really happy for all of them!
He wants to make it perfect and a surprise, and i know that… but does anyone get a little sad that it wasnt them every time they hear that another friend is engaged?
Post # 3
You’re not being silly. You’re being human. For the last year every time a friend of mine got engaged there was a little voice in my head that went “eh, it’s never going to be you!” and I’d look askance at the Mr. and wonder.
In the end it started happening so much (12 friends got engaged or married last year. 12! Was there a memo that I missed?!) that I would start to feel very upset whenever I heard of a new engagement. It wasn’t jealousy and I was never angry at my friends. There was just a little part of me that died over and over.
But then I’m sure that some of my friends (especially judging from their reactions) felt the same when I got engaged.
Just remember that your Mr. wants to make it special and a surprise because he loves you. It won’t make the little bit of sadness go away but it will help get over it a lot faster 🙂
Post # 4
Oh yes – I definitely do get sad.
Mr. Smilie and I were engaged for ever and ever – but we never made it official. When I heard that my sister ist going to get married necxt year I even startet crying. It’s not because I don’t want her to get married – I’m really happy for her.. it’s just because…. I wanted it, too.
But now I talked Mr. Smilie into making everything official and start saving money – because we’re going to throw a party noone will ever forget 🙂
Post # 5
And that is why i post on Weddingbee!!!
He has told me a number of times that he wants it to be the most romantic, perfect and amazing surprise i ever have.
We have been together for over 4 years now and he is worried that he has left it too late for it to truly be a suprise… I know it will be and i know he is waiting for the right time and I absolutely cannot wait!
It still does sting a little whenever i get that text message, email, phone call with “I’m engaged” and its not me and the man!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I was the exact same way when I was waiting, onl probably a little bit worse! When my (then) bf’s best friend got engaged, I refused to go meet them with all of our friends to celebrate bc I was too upset and didn’t want to fight with bf and cause a scene and ruin their night…I’m sorry, it sucks but hopefully you won’t be waiting too much longer!
Post # 7
Aw, that really sucks!! I used to feel like that sometimes… but I try to keep in mind that I WILL get engaged, and when that happens I’ll want everyone to be happy for me. So I just do my best to be supportive and so excited for my friend!
Post # 8
It’s hard to be excited for someone else when you want it to be you. I try to remind myself to breathe and not to start an argument with the mister. Most of the time that works. I also understand about having waited too long–I think we had that conversation a few weeks back. I think there was an ideal time for a proposal, it was probably some time before I started thinking about getting married. But oh well, it didn’t happen then and that doesn’t necessarily mean I won’t be happy when it happens.
Post # 9
Aw, I’m sorry. It’s really hard when the folks around you keep getting engaged. I managed to go out and celebrate with them, but when I got home, I can assure you there were some huffy nights. Fiance doesn’t like to remember those…
Post # 10
Yes, I used to get very upset – even when I was totally single. Hearing about engagements when I was dating my FH was even worse though – I felt so bad b/c I knew I should be happy for the couple, but I was just consumed with my own feelings/jealousy/whatever. You are human, just like everyone else don’t feel bad.
Oh, and it came back to bite me – when we announced our engagement to our friends the night we got engaged (we had already planned a party, so everyone was over) There were a couple girls who were obviously very jealous and were acting uncomfortable/standoffish around me.
Post # 11
It’s normal – and i know it’s hard, so (((hugs)))
I’ve heard the same complaint from people who are trying to get pregnant – EVERYONE around us seems to be getting pregnant.
Your time will come when it’s right. Just hang in there.
Post # 12
i got sad, even when my friend was dating her bf for a long time and we were only dating for a few months! it’s very normal when you know and you’re ready.
Post # 13
It’s not silly at all! When you see your friends and family getting engaged and married and you’re still waiting, it can be literally painful. Sort of like you’re standing in a foot of snow shivering and peering into the window of a house where they’re having a Christmas party. Not cool at all. 🙁
For me, I’ve worked to secure the thought in my head that I will get engaged and married…just not right now. And I don’t think about it from there. Why make it worse by being depressed or bringing it up? Weddings happen. They’re supposed to be happy. It’s not right to begrudge someone their happiness because of your own impatience.
But knowing that doesn’t necessarily make waiting any easier, haha!
Post # 14
that’s not silly, it’s a natural feeling. i feel the same way when my friends started coupling off and getting engaged/married. you can’t help but feel what you feel. i know the boy is very sensitive about that since it’s been all of my friends getting married [though he doesn’t like it much either since he wishes it were us too!].
i’m always sincerely happy for my friends but i want that for myself as well. and sometimes knowing that it’ll happen when it’s time isn’t enough to curb the sadness.
Post # 15
No your not crazy!! This is the story of my life right now lol. Two of my best friends got engaged on the 4th of july and then another good friend in august! So yeah its crazy and I have been talking to my Boyfriend or Best Friend a lot about it, because its all around us and he was like “Just let everyone else be engaged right now and then when we get engaged they will all be jealous” all i could think was “great, thanks” lol
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
No not silly at all! I totally felt all the things you were feeling especially after a friend whom had only been dating their SO for 10 mos..it drove me crazy….fortunately I didn’t have too much longer to wait and was a bride to be 6 months later and couldn’t be happier.