(Closed) Another FSIL Rant (Long, Apologies)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

2 Hours since a text? If my friends held me to that standard, I’d be a very lonely woman!

But, seriously, wait a day or so and see if she gets back to you. It sounds like she may have some serious problems she is overcoming and, if today or this week is bad, just give her the time she needs to pull herself out of it.

Like you said, she’s been doing well!

Post # 4
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

2 hours? I’ve taken way longer than that before to get back to someone. I hardly think 2 hours is something to get worried about right away. She’s got 2 weeks to pick it up. If you don’t hear back from her and the 2 weeks is coming to a close then I’d ask her again and then just pick it up yourself if you don’t hear back again/

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

She could of had to turn off her phone or ended up ina  place out of range right after she finished talking to your Fiance…or she could just be busy or not know yet! Two hours is no big deal…I know to the bride it’s like, “OMG yay wedding stuff must do this/answer immediately!!” But to most other people it’s like “Cool, the dress is in, I’ll figure out when I’ll be able to go in there later and let her know.”

Post # 7
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Give her some time. It sounds like she is trying and has been on her best behavior so far. If she doesn`t respond would you able to tell one of the girls to just pick up the dress for her? It’s only been two hours so I wouldn’t freak but about it just yet. Good luck, maybe this wedding will help her in turning some things around!

Post # 8
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ever heard the phrase “You’ve made your bed and now you’ve got to lie in it”? 

When choosing a Bridesmaid or Best Man, you want first and foremost someone you can trust and who is responsible and reliable standing beside you. According to your post, your Future Sister-In-Law has none of these traits.

You then state that you extended the invitation only to look good and pure to your Father-In-Law, not because you particularily like this girl. Following this statement up with you thought that asking her would get her life back on track. Sounds to me like you’re trying to save this girl from herself by being her bride in shining, white armour. All the while thinking if she does turn her life around everyone will praise you for starting the process. It doesn’t take a moron to figure out someone thinks down upon you.

Seriously, not to be harsh, but you deserve the reception you’re getting from your Future Sister-In-Law. Nobody wants to feel like their the pity friend, let alone bridemaid.

Post # 9
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with the previous post, that you sort of knew who she was before asking her. I 100% understand your perspective, and I am honestly not sure what I’d do in the same situation. What does your fiance say? I would give it a few days… if you don’t hear from her, give her a call. Then ask your fiance and Future Mother-In-Law to try to contact her. After that, it’s not your problem. If she doesn’t get back to you and pick up her dress, tell her you need to know whether she is in the bridal party or not so that she understands what a major deal this is. Does the family just accept her behavior, enabling her to be unemployed and party without any harsh consequences? Does she live at home or get financial support from them? She needs to be held accountable…

Post # 10
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Give it time before you assume she’s blowing you off. There are many reasons why she didn’t text you back right away. Give it a couple of days before worrying.

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