(Closed) Another gender roles post

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wash his clothes (but, mostly because he’s not allowed to wash mine!) and put them away.  I’m like you — I usually pack a lunch for him if he needs it too.  But, he does the dishes and is a cleaning fanatic.  He actually LIKES to vacuum.  Which works out well, because I’m messy.  Oh man, I’m going to be a horrible wife.

Post # 4
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1103 posts
Bumble bee

I pack his lunch, but only when I’m also packing my own. If I’m going out, he needs to fend for himself although I might point out the frozen soup or whatever in the freezer. I like doing it too, even though my parents always packed their own lunches and I never would have imagined I would do this for my partner! I don’t do his washing, we do our own. The only other thing I can think of is that on Sunday nights, FH has a WOW date with a friend who lives overseas, so he is on his computer non-stop from about 6-11pm. I don’t mind, I like having my own Sunday night routine to get ready for the week. One night I had some girlfriends over and I cooked dinner and plated it up, then took FH’s to him in his room. It’s quicker than going to his room, telling him it’s ready, and then him coming to the kitchen to get it. One of my girlfriends was like "omg, you carry his dinner for him?" I’d honestly never seen it that way, I just thought it was quick and nice to do! Although I don’t think she can talk – I was at her house the other night and her husband was heading out, and she wouldn’t let him out the door before he took off his jeans and let HER iron them! Aren’t relationships funny 🙂

Post # 5
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I fix his plate. I love it! LOL I don’t do the laundry, but I will cook and fix his plate. I fix everything he eats in fact. Breakfast, lunch and dinner. Awww. 

Post # 6
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1356 posts
Bumble bee

My Fiance does everything for me. 🙂 He packs my lunch, does the laundry, mops the floors, etc. I feel like I have done something good for him when I put my dishes in the dishwasher, or pick my clothes up off the floor. Haha. I need to get better about doing things for him. 🙂

Post # 7
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

lol I never got why mom would pack up my dads stuff for him on trips.

Well!

Fiance is going out of town for two weeks, leaving tomorrow. I walked into the bedroom to check on his packing and it was a disaster… he had shirts crumpled up taking up triple the amount of space needed. He says "there HAS to be an easier way to do this!"  I sighed and said "there is" and grabbed the whole bag, refolded it and packed everything. I don’t mind doing this kind of stuff but it made me giggle when I saw this post on here!

Post # 8
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m with August.  I’m really spoiled by my Fiance… He does the dishes and the laundry most of the time.  I usually cook, but he’s a great cook too.   I also tend the garden and take care of the dog for the most part.

I’ve been working so many nights and doing wedding tasks that he’s been happy to pick up the slack.  Now I just wish we could get rid of these boxes in the living room!

Post # 9
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14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

She’d do his nails, rub his feet (after work, stinky!) and get up and get him anything when he asked for it. Er, demanded. Old fashioned household with traditional roles…. At least my husband asks nicely and it’s not my "job" so basically, I refuse to be treated like it’s my job to wait on him. If he wants something during dinner, he can get up and get it himself!

That being said….I’m not sure what I ‘do" for my husband now…we still live so far apart. I did the laundry and cooked when we did live together though. And i ran little errands so we ciould spend the evenings together.  

Post # 11
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1428 posts
Bumble bee

Ditto with the laundry. When my parents got married, my granny (dad’s mum) actually told my mum to bring over his clothes so she could wash them as she didn’t think a young lady should have to wash his underthings. (yes that’s a direct quote).
My mum of course declined but she has ALWAYS done his laundry. We always joke about how funny it is that he knows how to install and hook up a washer and dryer but he doesn’t know how to actually use them.
I swore I would NEVER do that for a man.
When I met my guy, he did his own laundry….but oh gosh….like everything all together…stinky work clothes, whites, colors, all in the same load. I’m sure that’s totally fine for some people, but I am my mother’s daughter, and totally OCD about laundry. I’ve been that way since I was 6 years old. (thanks mum!)
So after he washed some of my clothes with his work clothes a few times, well I had to step in. He hasn’t done a load of laundry since I moved in with him a year ago….and at this point…probably never will. And you know what, I’m fine with that. I’ll probably never have to take trash out again or clean out the litter box…it’s a fair trade in my book.

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