(Closed) Another girl engaged…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I really understand where you are coming from….I unfortunatly feel the same way.  MANY of my friends AND family are getting engaged, married or having babies like crazy within the last year.  I do feel that pang of jealousy, followed by being a little pouty. 

I too keep saying to myself that these people have only been with their SO for a year or two…..and I have been with my SO for 10 years and still waiting. 

BUT, I always suck it up and like the posts because honestly I am happy for them and need to make the jealously monster to go away!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

There’s a couple of girls on my news feed planning weddings they’ve been in their relationships for longer than I have so I don’t really feel jealous of them. But every day it’s like “wedding this :D” “wedding that :D” as I browse Facebook and every time I have a little “aw man :c” moment heh. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I get it too. I have someone that I have decided to hide from my feed temporarily as she posts every single detail about her wedding planning! I really hope I don’t do that.

I had the weird stomach drop feeling recently when I found out a friend is thinking about moving in with her boyfriend of about 6 months. Which is great, I’m happy for them and he’s a bit older so it’s kind of expected. We’re just getting to the point now where moving in is going to be possible. My best friend moved in with her boyfriend after a year and they’ve been together 18 months; he’s older too and part of me has a feeling she’ll be engaged before me. I know we shouldn’t compare but it’s sooo hard not to! 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m engaged now, but my fiancé didn’t propose until right before our 6 year anniversary, so I saw lots of people get engaged before me, especially on Facebook who hadn’t been together nearly as long as us and were younger.

In fact, one girl got engaged on my birthday (July 31st) I got so annoyed I cried and asked him why he hadn’t proposed yet (very low point) and he told me he hadn’t had time to get me a ring due to his summer work schedule (he works 6 days a week in the summer). Well I had told him if we weren’t engaged before my last semester in school to wait because I didn’t want to completely lose focus if we got engaged while I was finishing up nursing school, which I totally would have done.

We ended up getting engaged August 4th at the botanical garden. It turns out we were supposed to go to the botanic garden right before my birthday, but it rained so we didn’t, that was when he was going to propose. I felt so bad that I threw such a fit because he was going to do it but he couldn’t. I know from experience it sucks watching others get engaged while you are so ready to be engaged, but try as hard as you can to not be jealous.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kendra389:  3 people on my FB engaged just this weekend alone! All been together less time that us… I know totally that there is no hard and fast rule and every couple is different but I still can’t help comparing and feeling a bit.. miffed!! Hopefully mine will be coming soon though!!! Finally 😉

Post # 22
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Worker bee

Um, yeah. Just because someone hasn’t  been together with their SO for as long as you and your SO have doesn’t mean they’re any less “deserving”. This thread really makes me disappointed. I can understand pangs of jealousy but to make it all about age or length of time together is just a bit rude.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Squid:  I don’t think anyone is saying anyone is less deserving because they’re younger, or have been together less time, its more a personal frustration at our own situations, it is jealousy on our part rather than any comment on other people’s relationships. If people get engaged after 6 months then good for them, they’re happy to commit to that person already, but from the mentality of a waiting bee, who is ready to get engaged but her SO is not, it can be frustrating because she can be questioning her own situation. At least this is my own take on it. The weddingbee is a place we where we are able to voice our frustrations that we can’t do so IRL. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

SO and I have been dating almost 2x as long as the couple with the next longest relationship that just got engaged. I know the feels. But your time will come!

 

Side note: one girl has an album with 20+ pics dedicated to the ring and just the ring. Not engagement pictures. It’s things like THAT which annoy me.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@kendra389:  lol I “like” the HELL out of those engagement statuses and posts, my logic is two-fold: it tells them ‘hey, congrats!’…aaaaaaaaaaand it shows up in my boyfriends news feed Innocent

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My friend sent me a picture, on Facebook, of her ring today to announce her engagement. They have been dating for just over a year. I can’t help but think, “Why isn’t my SO that sure about me after several years of dating?!”

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

I privately feel a little jealous when I keep seeing engagements on facebook. SO and I have been together for over 7 years, but engagement but has only really been on the table in the last few so I technically haven’t been “waiting” that long, but now it feels like it.

Our engagement is contigent on finances and the availability of the stone we want. We’re both unemployed students right now and money is super tight. SO had enough saved up for the ring, but we’ve had to dip into that money because other emergency expenses came up.

I’m hoping it will happen by the end of the year, but there’s no guarantee.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree with PP that it’s not so much a comment on the other person’s relationship, but more a reflection of our own. I’ve often thought “what’s wrong with me that SO hasn’t figured it out after x amount of years?” Each FB engagement I see just gets a little harder. And yes, I’ll “like” their status and wish them congratulations, and I’m genuinely happy for them. But I can’t help but wish it were me getting to share such happy news.

Post # 29
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Newbee

@badabing88:  

badabing88 (message   September 14, 2014   TX

@kendra389:  lol I “like” the HELL out of those engagement statuses and posts, my logic is two-fold: it tells them ‘hey, congrats!’…aaaaaaaaaaand it shows up in my boyfriends news feed Innocent

 
LOL!  I wish your comment had a “like” option!  Cracks me up because I do the SAME THING!!!
Hopefully, it’s not breaking any SIUP rules…. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@badabing88:  hahaha i’m glad i’m not the only one that does this 😉

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@badabing88:  OMG thats great….Little things like that couldn’t hurt in my opinion!!

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