(Closed) Another Guest List Q: Inviting Work Friends?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How would you invite the people from his work?
    Send one invite to the overall kitchen and let it be worked out : (6 votes)
    21 %
    Send individual invites to everyone in the kitchen : (11 votes)
    39 %
    Other - I have a suggestion! : (11 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    In a lot of cases, I say screw etiquette if it’s just not practical. I think this is one of those times…I agree with a group invite. 

    Post # 4
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My Fiance is a restaurant manager.. so we’re kind of in the same situation.. invite all his employees, are just the ones he’s closer with.. we’ve opted to just invite a few he’s become closer with.

    What if the people he’s not close with end up getting the day off and are able to go, instead of the one’s he is close with? It’s a tricky situation.. I would send individual invites to the guys he’s close with.

    And, guys aren’t catty like girls.. chances are they won’t be upset if they’re not invited.

    Post # 5
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d never do a group invite; even if I were close to every single co-worker or member of that group, it looks really lazy to not bother addressing an invite specificially to each person.  You can do a group invite for a kegger, but not for a wedding.

    I would invite the people that he truly wants to be there, and let them worry about making their scheduling requests on their own. 

    Post # 6
    717 posts
    Busy bee

    Let the bosses/supervisors know first and then invite the few that he’s close to and wants to invite.  the other people he’s not close with will probably not be expecting an invite anyway.  and this way the people he’s close with will have a better chance of getting off and being able to attend.  people’s feelings shouldn’t be hurt, everyone has to compromise with venue capacity/budget guidelines

    Post # 7
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I would send individial invites to the people he would like to see at his wedding.

    Post # 8
    8 posts

    I have worked in restaurants and have been left out of being invited to weddings, but at the end of the day it really didn’t make a difference.

    Invite those that he is close with, the rest of the staff will understand. 

    Post # 9
    3770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    @WeddingRepublic:  I agree with this… OP, you mentioned he’s just acquaintances and barely knows some of the other people, so why invite those people, either by individual or group invite?  However, like you said, I think it’s a good idea to give his bosses a heads up so they know that a certain number of people will also be invited, and can they work around them or at least a portion of them being absent.

    Post # 10
    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m using one rule for both my and FI’s work people — if we hang out with them outside of work, then they will likely be invited. To invite everyone we work with, even just our departments, would be a huge chunk of our guest list.

    Post # 11
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I would send individual invites and let them hash out the scheduling details themselves.  Your Fiance could say to them all that he sent everyone an invite and he realizes some can’t come because they have to work to let them know they better put their time-off requests in ASAP.

    Post # 12
    9550 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I, personally, would want people at the wedding that he wasn’t close to, but if that isn’t an issue for you then I think you can do the group invite. But beware that you will not get a firm number for your headcount. I had a friend that this did with her church. She invited everyone from church and asked that they let her know if they would be coming and she ended up having to plan for additional people because she could never be sure who was coming and who wasn’t. So there was lots of leftover food. But it worked. The whoel family ate pasta for two weeks straight.

    Post # 13
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would think that if he limited it to just the people he’s close to *and* let the bosses know that, there might be a way to help ensure that those people are able to get the time off for the wedding and the ones not invited are scheduled to cover. Unless there are more complex politics at work, it should actually be a good plan to limit the number of invitations among the kitchen employees, right?

    Post # 14
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    I might invite the bosses and inform them that you’d be inviting a few of the kitchen staff, and let them know who exactly, then only invite the ones he was close with.  No need to invite people you don’t really know well…  I wouldn’t be expected to be invited to a wedding of a coworker if I didn’t really know them well, so they shouldn’t.

    Post # 16
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I voted send individual invites but I think you should send them to the employees home addresses. Then nobody will feel that bad that they didn’t get one- kind of like giving out valentines to only some kids in class but not all. If you send them to their house it’s not a big deal. I def. wouldn’t do a group invite- what if the boss decides only the people you aren’t close to can come?

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