(Closed) Another Inviting a Couple Question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Since he’s the best man, you should probably offer him a +1 even if you don’t do it across-the-board for single guests. I would do that rather than putting her name on it, if it looks like they may be on the rocks …

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@heatherlm84:  Hrm.. if he breaks up with her, do you care if he brings a rand-oh? And if you address it just to him and he doesn’t break up with her by the wedding, are you going to be ok with her coming?  Or what if he doesn’t break up with her at all and she’s just mad that she was left off the invitation and now you have to deal with that backlash? 

I would just ask him and say that you want to know if he plans on being with her by your wedding and bringing her because if he is, then you’re going to give him a +1.  But, if he plans on ending it before then and wants to bring someone else, to just let you guys know and that should be fine (if you’re fine with it?). 

Post # 5
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You have a few months before sending save the dates, and even longer until invitations, so don’t sweat it too much. Budget for him to have a date, and keep your fingers crossed that he comes to his senses!

Post # 8
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m in a similar situation, and it’s a no win. I’m hoping my sister leaves the guy she’s living with before our invites have to go out, it’s a long time from now still so one can hope. I think if you aren’t including +1s to anyone that isn’t living together, married or engaged then you could get away leaving her off. You’re doing an intimate wedding with only 60 people, so I don’t think that just because he is your best man that you have to include a date for him. Realistically, the wedding party won’t have much of a chance to spend the night with their date in the first place. Any weddings I’ve been in I never bothered with a date for that reason alone. At the ceremony they don’t get to sit together and most often they sit apart at the dinner too, so it’s a waste of the extra costs to the couple and unfair to the date.

Post # 9
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11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@heatherlm84:  your wedding is almost a year away.  you have probably a good 8-9 months before sending your invites.  i wouldn’t be addressing anything yet.  a lot can happen in a year.

Post # 12
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11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@heatherlm84:  isn’t that what save the dates are for??

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