Another long distance relationship trust drama

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
Member
10605 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re snooping through his email? Did he give you his password?

I mean, if this happened before you were exclusive I would let it go.

Post # 3
Member
4810 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

View original reply
lola05 :   His reluctance at being exclusive would be troubling to me.   He may have just given it some thought and decided you’d never find out.

Have you explored with him the possibility of not being long distance?  If so, how did he react to that?

 

Post # 4
Member
6978 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

View original reply
lola05 :  I mean…if you’re already snooping and you JUST decided to be exclusive…I think that’s a bad sign. 

Post # 5
Member
3902 posts
Honey bee

Is it Lyz or Liz?

Post # 9
Member
6978 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

View original reply
lola05 :  Okay so it sounds like you need to work on your insecurities before getting into a relationship. To start a relationship off with snooping…how are you supposed to build trust from that?

I’m not saying you should trust this guy. But it’s obvious you don’t trust him. So why even journey down that road? 

Post # 10
Member
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I kinda gave him an ultimatum he had to think about it, and by the end of this last trip he said he wanted to make things work with me.

Does this mean he agreed to become exclusive? Because it sounds to me like he is just telling you what you want to hear.

I agree with PPs. Everything that happened until the moment you both choose to become exclusive was fair play -it doesn’t matter if you felt like stopping first. You are going to have to choose if you trust him enough to be faithful (assuming he said he was on board with being exclusive) and let it go, or if this is something that you won’t be able to get over with hence becoming a dealbreaker.

Post # 11
Member
1602 posts
Bumble bee

I tend to think that most people have good instincts as to the fidelity of others. If you’re worried, you know there’s an imbalance in affection. 

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors