(Closed) Another one bites the dust…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Those reasons are totally ridiculous. Is it possible he made them up because he thought they sounded better than the real reason? Maybe they can’t afford it or something? I don’t know… both of those reasons sound idiotic and immature. HUGS to your FI!

Post # 4
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The reason about “being all over a bridesmaid” might be one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. What a jealous, hateful woman. I’m actually going to go ahead and blame her for his decision without hearing all sides of the story. Jealous, selfish, and stupid.

Post # 5
4465 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow.  These reasons are ridiculous.  Half of our bridesmaids/groomsmen didn’t know each other, and I never even thought of it as being an issue.

As for being partnered with/”all over” a bridesmaid….ummmm, wtf?  They walk down the aisle together, and then enter the reception together.  They’re not getting a room together or anything.

This guy sounds like a jerk :o(

Post # 6
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

What a shame, but it sounds like he’s just making up excuses and those aren’t the real issues. His wife may be more of an influence than you know and is pretty insecure about her own relationship.

I’m sure your Fiance is upset. I would be too!

Post # 7
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

As sad as it sounds, I have seen women being very, very uncomfortable with their husbands being “partnered up” with another woman during a wedding ceremony. Yeah, some have jealousy problems like that…

For the Groomsmen, he has the choice between upsetting your Fiance, talk it out and getting over it, or upsetting his wife and hear about it for God knows how long! It’s sad that he can’t stand up to her, but I think it’s a case of picking out his battles…

I don’t know what solutions to offer, except to speak with him again and see if anything can be done to change his mind, since it’s so important for your Fiance for him to be there…

Post # 8
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That is really sad. I feel for you and your Fiance.  Would it be too out of place to talk with the wife and explain that her husband’s being a Groomsmen really is more about supporting you Fiance in an important moment in his life?

Was your Fiance a Groomsmen at their wedding?

Post # 9
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Wow…. that woman is a real gem. That statement has to be one of the most ridiculous, insecure things I’ve heard in a long time.

I really dont know what to say except I’d be upset too. Good luck in this situation. Hopefully things will work out.

Post # 10
1765 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry:(  One of my brothers (my closest actually) wasn’t a groomsman because his wife was jealous of not being in the wedding party!  (I don’t have any sisters, and I chose not to have any BMs, just a Maid/Matron of Honor who is my cousin).  So instead of my closest brother being in my wedding party, he ended up doing a reading, which was nice, but he didn’t also get the honor of being in our wedding party. 🙁

Post # 11
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, there is something not right in this situation.  The gm’s wife is too overprotective.  Really?? What is their problem?

 Ugh, I would be so pissed.  Could you find someone to replace the gm?

Or you could do the more bridesmaids than groomsmen. I bet the guys would love that.

I had two bm’s call out last minute, so I had 2 gm had to walk down the aisle with one bm.  Everyone loved it.

Post # 12
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

These are silly reasons not to be a Groomsmen, and his wife has major issues if this makes her jealous.  I think there could be something else at play, as some others have suggested.  I’m sorry for your Fiance 🙁

By the way, I actually do think being “partnered up” is sorta weird, and I don’t like it… but I would never tell my Fiance not to be in a wedding b/c of it, and I wouldn’t decline an invitation to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man b/c of it either.

Post # 13
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I do not understand women like this.  What does she think is going to happen.. they are going to walk down the aisle together and then just start going at it?  My hubs is in a wedding a few weeks and I could care less about the chick he gets partnered up with.. in fact, I’m sure I’ll be taking all sorts of pictures of them together.  And I will not know ANYONE at this wedding except for the bride and groom.  The groom is a good friend of his from when they were quite young and hubs and I didn’t meet until college. 

Post # 14
2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

wow. that’s ridiculous, and really stinks 🙁

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