Post # 1
So My cousine got married abroad last month and now another cousin has announced her engagement today :/
I just feel like my soul has crushed. I am so ready for this and I can’t help but be very angry at my SO. I don’t want to feel like this. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for her but as selfish as it sounds “Whens it mine turn???” … Think I might just curl into bed with “Sex and the City” , I honeslty thought I was next in the family. It made sense, everything never saw my cousin engaged for a while. Just made me feel so incredly depressed, I’m naturally a happy person but this was like a bullet from the dark.
Does hearing about familys engagments make them feel like this? Is it normal?
Post # 3
all of my cousins are already married and having kids. but i never felt bad about being the last to get married in my family.
hang in there, it will happen just at the right time. (HUGS)
Post # 4
It’s totally normal to feel like that when people around you are getting engaged! But, don’t let it get to you. Your time will come when it’s the right time for your time. If that makes any sense. *hug*
Post # 5
I can relate… Out of 17 first cousins, I’m one of 3 not married. Two cousins that aren’t married are also guys, one of which is only 16, and the other, who is the oldest, has decided to never get married. Both sides of my family are alllll over my butt of when we are getting married. I don’t totally blame them, it’s been a couple years since the last wedding, and SO and I have been together nearly 6 years. It’s just super irritating and doesn’t help the whole waiting thing.
Post # 6
Ha, yeah…my younger stepcousin got married and has two kids…I’ve been engaged for 7 months.
How old are you/how long have you been with your SO?
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I’m also from a big family 19 first cousins, I am the 4th oldest. The cousin who is now married is the 3rd oldest and the one engaged is the second. The eldest has been with her SO for 7 years but they won’t get married the man doesn’t agree with marriage.
I am only 22 but a very mature 22 with my head screwed on. My SO is 28 and my family adore him. We have both been through the wars and know what we want in the future. We have been together for 2 years now. MY SO is also from a family of similar size and he is the eldest of the kids (Well not kids but you know what I mean).
Yes it does make it difficult because everytime we visit his family they ask if we are engaged yet and are directing the question at me, I have to tell them no. Which is a little gut wrenching to be honest.
He want’s to start a family when he’s 30 and no older, so that would give us two years to save for a wedding. He best get his move on then.
It’s just upsetting watching my family as well as friends getting engaged. I am so ready for this and becoming incredibly inpatient but I don’t let him become aware of this.
He does need a little nudge to do EVERYTHING, even when it comes to him getting in the shower. Which is why his family love me because I keep his life organized and together (I know that sounds boastful, but I’m just trying to give a clear picture). He’s the kind of man that needs structure in his life.
I know I just need to hang on, in there but it’s very hard especially when you are so sure and ready for something that is out of your control.
Thanks for your words of kindness Bee’s 🙂 x
Post # 8
@CloverPinder: i can relate, one of y cousins married last year as well, we actually attended 3 weddings last year which i think put him off wedding….GRRRRRR, guys are dense….lol sometimes i think like my pic, i’ll end up being a corpse bride….heh heh