(Closed) Another one of SO's guy friends engaged

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@NinjaWings:  Aww, I’m sorry you feel like he’s dragging his feet. I feel like a lot of men do this… They get comfortable with the way things are, so why spend all that money on a ring and all that time on planning a wedding? I feel you though… My boyfriend is definitely the last of his group of friends to get married, and I just want him to do it already so we “fit in” hahaha. Your time will come, and at least you know you will have a solid marriage 🙂 

Post # 4
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@NinjaWings:  SO and I will be 6 solid years in June. We’ve been living together for 4. I totally feel like we’re married w/o the papers. TOTALLY. Sometimes I like that, sometimes I don’t. Whenever I get the feeling someone thinks my relationship isn’t as serious as someone who’s married, but been together for 3 years total, I wanna kick them!

I’ve had sooooooooooo many conversations with coworkers/clients and it starts with them saying “my husband/wife blah blah” and I’ll say something like “my boyfriend blah blah” They ask me how long we’ve been together and I say “almost 6 years” their response is “oh wow that’s longer than me and my husband!” makes me so angry!

Post # 5
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4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@NinjaWings:  We have only been together over 2 years and it absolutely feels like marriage without papers. Literally NOTHING about how we live our lives will change once we get married, everything is already intertwined. I cannot IMAGINE 6 years!

Post # 6
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1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The good news is that men start to think about being married a lot more when their friends take the plunge!

Post # 7
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

there’s a difference between being happy you have a “perfect” relationship and wanting to get married.  Why don’t you ask him where he sees your relationship going and if he even wants to get married.

Post # 9
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@NinjaWings:  wow! No one has asked me that. that’s really weird. It’s the whole “boyfriend” thing. I am a nursing student, and I’ve had people asked if I would travel as a nurse. I said “as long as SO can get a job, I’d be willing to go” then they blow it off like it’s no big deal to move away without him. I feel like if he was my husband, they would never suggest I could move away without him.

Post # 10
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2262 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe time to have the discussion that whens the right time for the two of you to take the next step. Just so you both are on the same page and you don’t have to leave everything entirely up to him. If you want to be engaged and start working on being a family together, be proactive about it. 

Post # 12
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry you’re feeling left out. If it makes you feel any better, when a guy’s friends are engaged/married, they are more likely to get engaged/married. So be happy for them, and think of it as they’re paving the way for you.

 

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