(Closed) Another one of those posts..

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you call her if she gave you her first name and then (mom)?
    First name : (39 votes)
    78 %
    Mom : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Mrs. Last Name : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Hey you! : (0 votes)
    Forget about addressing her (don't even address her ever again) : (0 votes)
    Just ask her what she'd prefer, it won't be awkward. : (8 votes)
    16 %
    I want to vote. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 4
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    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I call my Mother-In-Law by her first name.  Unless you’re comfortable with “mom,” I’d stick with her first name until she brings it up again or it feels natural to call her that.  I personally can’t see myself ever calling my Mother-In-Law by anything other than her first name, but my parents still call their in-laws by their first names, so that’s what feels normal to me.

    Post # 5
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    295 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I feel comfortable enough to call her mom, if you’re not sure, just ask her.  Tell her you feel awkward calling her Mrs…. since it’s been so long and you’d like to call her mom or first name, which would she prefer.  I’m sure she’ll be fine with it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d call her by her first name.  I think I would personally have a hard time calling someone other than my actual mom “Mom”.

    Post # 7
    Member
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think her first name most of the time, like in e-mails and stuff, but maybe in person during moments when you are feeling close to her I might use mom.

    Post # 8
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    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am not married (or engaged yet for that matter) and i interchangably use my BF’s mothers first name and also Mom LastInitial.  I also call his grandmother Grandma FirstInitial, and his uncle, Uncle FirstInitial.  For his dad’s side of the family, i called his dad and stepmother by their first names.  

    But, my BF’s parents both call/called their inlaws by mom, grandma, grandpa, etc, so i think thats just the ‘thing’ with their family

    On the other hand, both my parents call their in-laws by their first names.

     

    Edit: it is still wierd to call his mom ‘mom’, even with the Last Initial added because i call my mom ‘mom’.  Its not as wierd for me to call his grandma or grandpa ‘grandma’ or ‘grandpa’ because I never used those terms for my own grandparents

    Post # 9
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @beekiss2: I’ve only ever called my FIL’s by their first names. I could never call anyone but my mom, “Mom”. 

    Post # 11
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My Future Mother-In-Law has signed a few emails FirstName/Mom. I still call her by her first name. I have a mom, I have no intention of calling her mom. And it isn’t anything against her because I like her a lot– but that weirds me out. 

    Post # 12
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    You left out the traditional response:  You call her “Hey you” until your first child finds some cute way to mispronounce grandma, and then call her that.  😉

    Post # 13
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    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I’m going to be honest here…I’m really weirded out by referring to your husband’s (fiance’s) parents as Mom and Dad..it feels rather incestuous to me.  They’re not your mom and dad, they’re his, and if you had the same mom and dad, you wouldn’t be getting married (I would hope).  I get that they’re my family now, and that’s great, and I love that I’m close to my husband’s parents and vice versa…but he can call them Mom and Dad and I’ll stick with their names.  

    Post # 15
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    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i would stick with first name.

    Post # 16
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think it’s sort of an archaic thing to call your Future Mother-In-Law mom.. I think our parents’ generation did that (my mom called my paternal grandma “mom”) – but I think it’s phasing out. I have only and will only call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name. 🙂

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