Post # 1
Finding a venue is becoming increasingly difficult within our budget (which I didn’t even think was THAT low…). I found a place that might work and has everything we are looking for. The open bar is non negotiable to us, but I’m curious what you bees think about having a full bar vs. just a beer and wine bar. Would you be disappointed to arrive and find that there’s no liquor based mixed drinks?
The price difference is quite a bit, but I don’t want guests to be bummed. Tell me bees! What’re your thoughts on this situation?
Post # 2
blt982: I’m from the UK so my answer may not help, but I personally would always like the option of being able to drink spirits and mixers, particularly at something like a wedding where typically you have wine during the day, as while I do love wine, sometimes it gets a bit much after like 6 hours of drinking. I’m also VERY fussy about wine, so if there wasn’t one a liked, I would drink spirits. If there wasn’t a fully open bar that would be fine, but I would appreciate the option of purchasing them myself.
So basically,I don’t think a full open bar is necessary but I do think spirits should be offered.
Post # 3
I’m always happy with just a beer and wine open bar!
Post # 4
I would prefer an open bar that only has beer and wine over a full bar that I have to pay for.
Post # 5
Thanks everyone! And just to clarify, neither of these options would be a cash bar. I’m just trying to get a feel on if I need to dish out the extra cash for the open liquor bar or if beer/wine would suffice. Ha.
Post # 6
Beer and wine is good. Most people are happy with those choices, and other people can deal 🙂
Post # 7
We’re only having beer, wine and champagne available during the entire reception, but we’ve opted for a round of digestifs after dinner, where guests can choose between a variety of options. While that’s pretty much the norm where I’m from (Germany), we also don’t want our guests to get wasted on spirits during our reception.
Post # 8
I’m sure anyone would be happy about more choices, or about the ability to order any mixed drink… but anyone who comes to a wedding and complains because it’s “only” beer and wine is really rude (in my opinion). And this is coming from someone who doesn’t drink beer and doesn’t particularly enjoy wine, but enjoys mixed drinks!
When we were looking at bars, it was never an option in our budget to do more than beer and wine – although we may have been able to swing a signature mixed drink.
Edit: We’re now doing brunch for 30 people. Haha. So there’s no “bar” (we’re in a restaurant’s private room). We’re still trying to figure out if we can even afford alcohol for this brunch as their cheapest package is $900 and the food itself is only $1200… so we might just be offering one glass of wine/beer for toasting. The horror!
Post # 9
I’ve been to a ton of weddings with “just” beer/wine and a ton of weddings with full open bar. I’ve always had a great time either way! I think the vast majority of guests will be more than happy with beer and wine.
Post # 10
Take the price difference and buy the dress of your dreams or put a downpayment on your new home or do whatever makes you happy. No one who is at your wedding for the right reason needs hard liquor to be available or they’ll be bummed.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
blt982: We’re just doing beer and wine. It was $17/person extra for 3 hours of full bar. We were thinking of doing a signature cocktail, which was actually almost as much, but it’s sort of a program where they make them for you, you do a tasting and thll them what you like, and you get 3 to have at your wedding. But after speaking with one of my bridesmaids, she was saying how she likes beer and wine better because liquor gets you drunk too quick and mixed drinks are sometimes too sugary with everything else going on with the wedding. So I decided to jsut add 2 more hours of open beer/wine/champagne for a total of $1000. I’m very comfortable with my decision.
Post # 12
We had an open bar during our social hour and dinner. We also had a keg, so people had options of beer, wine and mixed drinks.
DH’s family are big liquor drinkers, so there would have been no way that we couldn’t have had mixed drinks for either an open or a cash bar. That would not have gone over well!
Plus, having all options available lets people choose what they really want to drink. But, if only one of those options was available, most people can pick between beer or wine – if they like those are don’t JUST do mix drinks.
Post # 13
I am sure your guests will more than understand beer and wine, especially with the recent recession most people understand the need to budget appropriately. If you want you can do a signature mixed drink but it is not necessary.
Post # 14
I would not even be slightly disappointed with just beer and wine bar. That is usually what I choose to drink all night. Could you possibly add a sangria or a champagne cocktail type drink?
Post # 15
blt982: what about hosted beer and wine and if people want liquor they pay? That’s what I’m doing. At a venue I visited. The coordinator said that when people go for liquor and find out that they have to pay, they almost always default to the free beer and wine.