(Closed) Another "overbearing mother" post.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I feel for you. Parents turn when it comes to weddings and ours arent even paying for the wedding just bits of it. I wouldnt immediately dismiss them, sometimes they have good points which we just label overbearing thought and ignore:

Example A: Me and mum go bridal dress shopping

Me: This is the dress I like 

mum: Uh …. no it doesnt even look like its finished 

Me: what about this one 

Mum: youre not cinderella.

Look all im saying are these dresses are not you. Your style is more glamorous try this one on

Me: I love it. 

 

Different story with the flower girl dress and cake though 

Example B: 

Me: I like this one for baby girl 

Mum: her shoulder are showing, its too adult

Me: The shoulder issue is your issue mum 

Mum: Its too adult

Me: but I love it and its perfect for a garden wedding and bla bla bla bla 

Mum: Still dont like it

Me: Well if we ask her mother and she says yes or no then well know 

Mum: fine 

 

Its taken me a year to lean how to be able to talk to mum about this wedding. Sometimes introducing the idea early and explaining why I love it and providing inspiration pics really wears her down (she nearly had a fit when I said I was using balloons but had to admit it was lovely when i showed her inspirtion pics) and sometimes shes just right so hear her out and talk to her

Post # 4
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4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  They really trap you with the money, don’t they!?! My mom is contributing like 15% and thinks I want her opinion on everything. I don’t. She hasn’t been too too bad BUT she hasn’t been to weddings in like 10 years but OF COURSE, this season she’s gone to like 4 and ALL I HEAR now is things like, “Oh she had these litle guest bags, you need to do them!” and “ohh you definitely need to have a chocolate candy bar” and “You simply must wear a veil, Katie did at her wedidng!”

She’s got a little bit of Keeping up with the Joneses after her little wedding tour…. I wish she were still clueless….

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