Post # 1
Yikes. I am not thrilled to be writing this. Like many brides, my body weight has changed during all this planning and prep, and now I’ve got a problem: my dress doesn’t fit right. It sort of fits. It will zip up, but it feels a bit snug and I’ve got back fat issues that I didn’t have before. My wedding is on June 15, 2013. 50 days from now. Eeek!
I can’t put a corset back on this dress. It has a lot of beading and it would ruin the asthetic on the back because the beads form a V and run down the length of the dress. I’m wearing a crinline that runs up to my bra, and I’m pretty sure the bra is helping this damn dress zip at this point, as it cinches me in a bit. I’m guessing I would need to lose about 10 pounds and hit the strength training pretty hard to make a difference. Can this be done in 50 days?
Brief backstory: Eating disorder suvivor, adreinal/thyroid issues, sports injury I’m still working on (although I am cleared for gym work now). Coming off of a horrible birth control experience that made me gain and made me have a 5 week period (horrible! I’m sure some of this is water weight). I don’t drink coffee or soda. I am really busy with work, but generally I’m able to get meals in, although timing is a bit inconsistant. I haven’t been in the gym much, but that should be a bit easier now that I’m on the mend.
I’m nervous. I haven’t tried to intentionally lose weight in a long time. The last time I did, I was sick and the obsession took over my life. I didn’t want this wedding to be about my weight, but I am really not happy with how this dress is fitting right now. I need to fix this somehow. Any words of advice or encouragement? What has worked for you?
Post # 3
pick healthy foods, easy on the carbs, drink lots of water (avoid juice) try your best to get to the gym 🙂
Post # 4
Given your past, I would encourage you to focus on making this happen through small changes. I believe your goal should just be making the dress fit better, not a specific lbs number — 10 lbs seems arbitrary in terms of how the dress fits — it might be more than you need, in whcih case you’d probably be adopting to aggressive of a weight loss plan for what you need.
I am certain that you can make your dress fit better so that youare more comfortable in 50 days. I’m a few weeks out and focusing on weight management by replacing one meal a dal with all veggies (I basically just replaced lunch with a salad with lemon juice, tofu, and a lot of sugar snap peas and baby carrots to fill up).
Best of luck!
Post # 5
@modernriot: The best advice I’ve ever been given is drink in ounces at least half your weight in pounds of water daily. Check Pinterest for some exersizes that will focus on your back. Print off a small picture of yourself in your dress (surely you have one somewhere from shopping/a fitting?) and keep it with you essentially at all times… it’ll be a great deterrant against eating anything unhealthy.
Post # 6
Cut out salt, where possible. Drink lots of water. Eat well.
What about Spanx? Would they help at all?
Post # 7
What I’m doing is getting a longline bra, it totally pulls me in a little bit. I’m pretty happy with my weight and don’t want to lose anymore, but my dress is still a little snug. I also had an unhealthy relationship with food (I’ve actually never told anyone about it though) and want to focus on staying healthy. With the long line bra though it totally makes me have room to spare.
Post # 8
I had an eating disorder (I use past tense because even if the image distortion is there, I can eat a cheeseburger happily and if I want to lose weight I can do it through mild diet and excercise). I understand how difficult and scary it is to intentionally ‘feed’ some of those thoughts sometimes, simply by doing what other people do normally, start a diet on monday sort of. My recommendation is to not weigh yourself, at all. Instead, use a tape measure. Mark a goal on the tape measure for bust, waist and hips and work until you get there, and then stay there. It can be only an inch, because if it fit before and doesnt fit now then you probably only need that or probably even less. But that mark is somewhere you cant go past, its a goal and a stopping point. This works for me 😉 And yes, it can totally be done in 50 days! Do a video program, p90x is great for strength training and insanity is great for weight loss but its killer on your knees!
Post # 9
Don’t let this push you bacdisorders eating disorder. By all means eat healthily but don’t be restrictive. See if your dress can be let out slightly at the seams – it sounds like its nearly fitting you properly so shouldn’t take much. Do not let yourself get sick over this!
Post # 10
Thank you all so much! I’m overwhelmed by all your kindness and great advice! With only 50 days, I’m hoping I can so something to make this easier on myself. I just don’t want to be stressing out about it on the big day. The wedding is a celebration of life and love and happiness. For me, it’s also a moment to be thankful that I’m so much healthier than I was. I’m carrying extra weight right now, but I’m full of so much more life than I ever was. Hopefully I can take this slowly, but still make a difference in the next 6ish weeks.
Post # 11
Have you considered bringing it to a seamstress to get it altered? I know you said you can’t put a corset back on it… but what about seeing if the dress can just be let out slightly in the places where you need it to be a bit looser? Seamstresses can do pretty amazing things. When my dress came in, it was too tight on my hips – one of the only places on my body that I can’t make smaller (not for lack of trying). Instead of going on a crazy fitness regime/diet (that probably wouldn’t make my hips smaller anyway), I’m sticking to my regular exercise, trying to eat healthy… and I brought my dress to a seamstress! She let the seams out a little bit in the hip region. Now it fits! She did great work! So, this is another option for you to consider. Most dresses have at least an inch or two of wiggle room/extra fabric in the seams, and the right seamstress will know what to do to make it fit you!
Best of luck! I’m sure it will all work out and you will look amazing on your big day! 🙂
Post # 12
What does your bra situation look like?
I’d planned on wearing a full longline bra, but then I started working out harder- my back and ribs expanded and bit and my dress wouldn’t zip two weeks out. I got a low back longline, and the dress zipped, magically; the little bit of space the bra took up was what was not letting it zip completely.
So look at that first.
Then the other bees gave good advice- lots of water, watch the snacks. If your dress will zip and it’s mostly aesthetic stuff you’re looking at, 50 days is plenty of time to make the very small changes necessary (heck, just coming off the BC might do it!). Don’t freak out yet.
Post # 13
one thing that helps me lose weight when i need to in a pinch is to cut out all beverages that have calories. all of them! diet soda (occasionally – like at a party when drinking water would be odd) and water the rest of the time.
sugary drinks and juices are empty calories and don’t satisfy you the way food does. so if i want orange juice, i eat an orange etc. fewer calories, satisfying and better for you.
don’t worry – you’ve got 50 days! be sensible and healthy and add a 20 minute walk after dinner each night and you’ll be fine 🙂